Are you looking to elevate your oral sex skills? Do you want to give her pleasure that she can’t resist? Let’s be honest — most people don’t know how to properly eat pussy.
For some, the idea of oral sex seems daunting and intimidating. But it doesn’t have to be! It’s actually quite simple. The key is tantalizing her senses and ensuring she feels safe in your presence. Hold back. Don’t go straight for her pussy.
That can’t be all, right?
It’s not. Below are 24 essential tips for giving unforgettable oral sex to your woman, making her scream with pleasure.
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Female Anatomy 101
Before you dive between her thighs, understand the basics of the female anatomy.
The clitoris is the most sensitive area at the top of the vulva. It has thousands of nerve endings that can provide intense pleasure when stimulated correctly. You can easily find the clit by looking for a small bump at the top of the vulva, right below the mons pubis (the triangular area at the top).
The outer labia are two folds of skin that protect the delicate clitoris, inner labia, urethra opening, and vagina. Tucked beneath are the inner labia, smaller skin folds on either side of the vaginal opening. They are usually more sensitive than the outer labia.
Inside the vagina, you will find G Spot, A Spot, D Spot, and cervix. The G Spot is roughly a knuckle and half inside the vagina. It will feel slightly bumpy and rigid. During arousal, it swells. That’s a good sign that your partner is very turned on and closer to climax.
Beyond that is the A Spot, located at the top of the vaginal wall just beyond the G Spot. It’s less sensitive than the G Spot but can be incredibly pleasurable when stimulated with a finger or two.
On the lower vaginal wall is the D Spot. A fragile wall separates the vaginal and anal canals, so it might feel strange to have her D Spot stimulated if it’s the first time.
Ask your partner questions throughout sex so that you know what feels good for her.
24 of the Best Pussy Eating Tips
For a comprehensive guide to eating pussy, read How to Eat Pussy like a Champion.
Fortunately, we’ve curated a list of the best fast and easy pussy eating tips and tricks to help you master oral sex. Here are 24 tips that will make your woman scream with pleasure:
Make It Exciting
Make it exciting by adding role-playing to the bedroom. Set up a scene and act it out together. It’s both fun and exciting to try new things from time to time. There are elaborate role plays involving costumes, intricate dialogue, and even having sex in unique locations.
BDSM and restraints are also great options for making oral sex a little more exciting. We recommend purchasing simple restraints like handcuffs, bed restraints, and spreader bars and tying her up in unique positions.
Or, if that doesn’t interest you, do something simpler. For example, tell her what a dirty girl she is and how you can’t wait to take her.
Give her oral sex in a unique location. Instead of the bedroom, come into the bathroom (assuming it’s big enough for two) while she does her hair and makeup. Surprise her by getting on your knees.
You do not have to be extreme to make sex exciting. Mix it up occasionally, and you will get her attention.
Experiment With Sex Positions
Try different positions; it will keep things from getting stale. You can try lying on your back with her straddling your face or kneeling between her legs and using your hands to spread them apart.
Get creative!
Communicate
Communication is key when it comes to eating pussy. Ask your partner what she likes and doesn’t like, and listen to her feedback (verbal and nonverbal).
This will help you understand what techniques work best for her and make the experience more enjoyable.
Also, don’t be afraid to tell her how much you enjoy pleasing her orally. Women love feeling desired, and positive affirmations can go a long way in making them feel special.
In fact, it’s so important that we have a dedicated section on positive affirmations beyond. While we don’t recommend you skip ahead to that section (Read everything! It’s important), in the back of your mind, know that throughout the entire process, you should be making her feel desired, sexy, and WANTED.
Start With Foreplay
Great sex starts in the mind — surprising, right?
Few women can cum without it, or at the very least, it will take you twice as long to get her to the point of climax without foreplay.
Ideally, you should take your time with foreplay and start it long before either of you has removed any clothing. Foreplay can be anything if it gets your partner excited and ready for sex.
Before you even think about kissing her lady parts, create a comfortable atmosphere. Dim the lights if necessary, light some candles or incenses, put on some music that she likes — anything to get her in the mood and relaxed.
Start by kissing her slowly and passionately, allowing your fingers and hands to explore the delicate skin at her neck, collarbones, and back. Don’t be afraid to get your tongue involved; really kiss your partner and involve your mouth, hands, and arms.
Be passionate without being creepy. There is a fine line between being so passionate you come off as desperate for her attention; and being so passionate that she can feel your warmth, care, and attention.
The difference is in her body language. Does she lean into you when you grab her and begin kissing her passionately with both arms wrapped around her body? Or does she pull back slightly? Bingo!
If she pulls back, whatever you are doing is too much. Relax a little. Loosen your grip around her body. In layman’s terms, chill out!
Take the pressure off her and wait. Try again, but this time move more slowly.
Take your time! Explore and touch her erogenous zones, not including her pussy. This will help build anticipation and arousal, making the experience more enjoyable. Women have several erogenous zones from the top of their body (neck, scalp, and shoulders) to their lower body (inner thighs, vulva, and ass).
Don’t rush to take off your clothing. Get comfortable sitting in sexual tension and allowing it to build up. Eventually, remove your outer clothing. Keep on your underwear. Continue touching your partner’s other erogenous zones, uninhibited by clothing.
Once you are both ready for the next step, move to the bed or wherever you plan on having sex for a sensual massage and (you guessed it) more foreplay.
Build Anticipation
Building anticipation is key to getting her soaking wet long before you remove her panties. Women thrive on anticipation of what’s to come, and no matter how good of a lover you are, you can’t contend with whatever fantasies she has come up with in her head.
She’s probably imagining you being a first-class lover and picturing your body and hers intertwined in the sheets — that’s good! Encourage her imagination to run wild, making her wet in the process.
Tease Her a Bit First
Once you’ve built up the anticipation, it’s time to tease her a bit.
Tease your way from the top of her body to between her legs. Be playful, and don’t linger in any particular area for too long.
When you get between her legs, lightly kiss and lick around her vulva, but not directly on it. This will help build arousal and make her even more eager for what you will do next.
You can also use your fingers to massage her inner thighs lightly or gently caress her labia. Don’t be afraid to get creative and use your hands, lips, and tongue to explore her body without (this is very important!) focusing on her clit.
Ignore Her Clit
Women love direct clitoral stimulation, yes!
But she will love it even more if you make her wait. Instead of focusing solely on her clitoris, try exploring other areas of her vulva with both your fingers and tongue first and for a long time. Then once she’s moaning or trying to push your head toward her clit you can start to lick and play with it.
Don’t forget to use your hands to touch, tickle, caress, and explore other areas of her body while you lick, kiss, and suck the clit.
Start Slow
Ensure she’s relaxed and ready before you begin. Start slow and gradually increase the speed as she gets more aroused.
Begin by lightly licking her vulva (not her clit) with your tongue. Take your time. Eating pussy is not something you do when you’re in a hurry.
Gradually increase the pressure and speed as she responds positively. Some women need hard, rough, and fast; others cannot handle too much stimulation. Starting slow allows you to keep building sexual tension without doing too much, too soon.
Get It Wet
Stay hydrated when eating pussy, as saliva is essential for lubrication and pleasure. Drink plenty of water before and during the experience, if you need a break, to ensure that your mouth is nice and wet.
When you start eating her pussy, get the entire area wet, especially her clitoris. Think of it as the head of your penis. It feels better when it’s wet, right? A wet pussy feels ten times better too.
Kiss It
Kiss and lick every inch of her body, from her inner thighs to her lower stomach or navel. This increases anticipation and helps her vaginal muscles relax, making it easier (and more pleasurable) when you start exploring down there.
Move to the vulva. Kiss her two lips (the labia). Maybe sneak in a few kisses directly on the clitoris, but don’t get too caught up with the clit yet.
You aren’t there yet!
Lick It
When licking the area around her clit, use both your tongue and lips. Make sure to use varied pressure, as some areas are more sensitive than others.
Start at the top of her labia and slide down gently until you reach the bottom, then repeat back up again. You’ll likely find that different areas are particularly sensitive — use that information later when you vary your technique!
After she is fully teased and nearly crumbling to bits from all the sexual tension, focus on the clitoris.
The key to success will always involve pleasing her clitoris. This is because that’s where she feels most pleasure.
Start licking her clit with various techniques until you find the ONE. Try circular motions using the tip of your tongue. Lick up and downward. Lick just the left side or just the right side of her clit.
Ask her to guide you if you aren’t getting the response you hoped for. Ask, “What do you like?” or “Do you want me to go harder or softer?” Involve her in the process too, especially if it’s the first or second time you’ve had oral sex.
It’s important not to forget about the rest of her pussy when you focus on the clit. Playfully explore her vagina with your finger while using your mouth.
Suck Her Clit
Since some women like intense stimulation, after a few rounds of careful experimenting (Yes! Experiment away!), you’ll be able to predict what she loves best and use many variations that keep the experience fresh and exciting each time.
Using suction between licking or even nibbling can be incredibly pleasurable for your partner.
Make sure not to apply too much pressure. Use gentle suction on her clitoris by wrapping your lips around it and creating a suction inside your mouth.
Suck on it the way you would suck on her nipple. Just don’t overdo it! It’s pleasurable at first, but can become uncomfortable or just annoying if that is the only thing you do to her clit.
Motorboat It
Motorboating is when you place your face flat against her labia (lips) and shake it back and forth rhythmically, providing heavy vibrations through the whole area that can feel delightful for your partner, especially if you manage to hit certain spots!
Make sure she’s comfortable first, as this technique might take a bit of getting used to!
Play With Intensity, Pressure, and Speed
Follow her verbal and nonverbal cues. No two pussies are alike – neither should any two oral experiences be alike! As mentioned, communication is key when engaging in sexual activities together. Ask questions such as “What do you want me to do?”
Not only does this ensure you remain connected through honest dialogue, but it can also encourage new ideas for you and her to try. Getting creative keeps things fresh and adds a little extra spice into playtime!
If your partner doesn’t give specifics, pay attention to her reactions. That is usually a good indication of what she likes and what’s bringing her closer to an orgasm.
Switch up your moves. Give light licks, tongue circles, kissing and licking different parts of her body, and simply licking her up and down.
You can also use your tongue differently, such as flicking or swirling it in circles around her clitoris. Use a flat tongue to apply firm pressure on her entire vulva or just the tip of your tongue to push down on her clit.
If you want to take things up a notch, you can also try using sex toys or even your fingers to provide additional stimulation, increasing the intensity of the experience.
Play with different variations of pressure, speed, and intensity until you find the one that gets her closest to an orgasm.
Use Your Breath
Your breath can be a powerful tool when it comes to eating pussy. Try lightly blowing on your woman’s clitoris or other areas of her vulva to create a pleasurable sensation.
You can also use your breath to cool down the area after licking and sucking for a while. This will help keep her aroused and make the experience even more enjoyable.
Use Sex Toys
Using sex toys can be a great way to spice up your oral sex routine.
Try using:
- Vibrators
- Hitachi wands
- G Spot wands
- Dildos
- Vibrating Egg
Or any other toys to add an extra layer of pleasure for her.
You can use a toy on her clit, such as a Hitachi wand or Clit Sucker, while you lick and suck other areas of her vulva and body.
Try a toy like a G Spot wand, dildo, or vibrating egg to penetrate her. At the same time, you can focus on licking and sucking her vulva and clit.
Give Positive Affirmations
Throughout the process, remind your woman how amazing she tastes and looks.
Why?
Many women are self-conscious about their bodies and telling them that you enjoy it can help alleviate any tension, anxiety, or guilt they might have about the experience.
Say, “You look so fucking sexy!” or “You taste amazing. Come here! I want you so badly!” in a deep, authoritative voice. Growl it, if you have to; communicate that she is not the only one receiving pleasure.
Talking dirty can be a great way to add an extra layer of pleasure to the experience. Try whispering naughty things in her ear or telling her how much you love how she tastes. This will help build anticipation and make the experience even more enjoyable for both of you.
Put One or Two Fingers inside
Many men aren’t sure what to do with their hands during oral sex. Use your dominant hand to put one or two fingers inside her vagina — stop! Before sliding one or two inside, trace the tip of your fingers around the entrance. The vaginal opening is more sensitive than the deeper sections, and she is bound to enjoy the stimulation.
The only hand can either stimulate other erogenous zones, such as her nipples, play with her butt or rest on her lower stomach or mons pubis. Apply a little pressure because it’s a grounding and securing feeling when your hand rests here.
Or, if she’s comfortable with it and the sex position allows, reach upwards and place your hand on her chest and pressure down gently. Or wrap a hand around her neck (if she’s into it, of course).
Put Another In Her Butt
If your partner is comfortable with anal play, you can put a finger inside her butt while fingering her vagina. This will provide additional stimulation. Make sure you get your finger wet before sticking it inside.
You don’t have to stick it all the way in. Just trace your fingertip along the opening of her anus, as it’s coated with tons of nerve endings and will increase her pleasure.
You can also use a small vibrator or butt plug to stimulate her anus instead of your fingers.
The key is to keep both hands just as active as your mouth.
For a lazy oral sex session, rest one hand on her lower body. Use the dominant one to explore her vagina. For a more energetic oral sex session, use both hands to finger or explore every inch of her body.
Eat Her Ass Too
Don’t forget to give her ass some love too. Lick, kiss, and nibble on her butt cheeks and the area around her anus, such as the perineum.
Start from her pussy, move to the perineum (the small space between the vagina and anus), and then finish by giving your woman a rim job.
Don't Rush
Eating pussy can take some time — we mean a lot of time! Be patient, and don’t rush through the experience.
1. She won’t cum if you rush.
2. It makes her feel like you don’t want to eat her out = She feels like shit.
3. It kills the vibe.
Take your time exploring her body and savoring every moment.
We get it. Sometimes you don’t have time. In that case, reschedule or get really good at giving quickies. Quickies can work, but you have to know your woman’s sweet spots already. You don’t have time to explore Indiana Jones style when it’s just a quickie.
Hit her spots. She cums. Done!
If you don’t know her spots yet, it won’t work.
If she doesn’t cum easily, it won’t work.
Quickies are for professionals and those who already know their woman well. If these descriptions do not match you, you must make time for oral sex.
Don't Stop When She Gets Close
Pay attention to your partner’s body language while eating her out.
When she gets close to having an orgasm, don’t change your movement. Mixing it up is good for finding her sweet spot and giving her different sensations, but once you find the one that works the best and is getting her close to orgasm, don’t change it up.
Women need consistent movement to orgasm. If she’s really into the moment and is about to cum, but then you take your finger or tongue away, she will lose it. You will have to start again!
This is the key reason why using the ABCs to eat your partner out does not work. Some tongue flickers feel great, others so-so, and some like nothing.
If you want a woman to cum from oral sex, ditch all the so-so and shitty movements and use only the ones that feel fan-fucking-tastic!
Here are a few signs that you can look out for when she’s close to having an orgasm:
- Her breathing will become faster and more intense.
- She may start to moan or make noises of pleasure.
- Her body will tense up as she gets closer to orgasm.
- Her thighs might start to shake.
- She may start to thrust her hips toward your mouth or move her body to indicate she's enjoying what you're doing.
- Her vagina may start to contract as she gets closer to orgasm.
- She may start to grab your hair or body as she gets close to climaxing.
If you can find her spot, keep it up! Don’t stop until she cums. After she cums, see if she is ready for another orgasm.
Try Edging
Edging is when you bring your partner to the brink of orgasm and then stop. This can help her experience more intense orgasms and prolong the pleasure.
You can do this by licking, sucking, and fingering her until she’s close to orgasm. Then, stop for a few seconds as she gets close to climax before continuing again.
This technique will help build up anticipation and make her orgasm more powerful.
However, edging is a difficult technique to master. You run the risk of completely ruining the orgasm and not being able to make her reach orgasm later.
Use edging techniques with caution.
Take The Pressure Away
An orgasm is not the goal of oral sex. It’s great when it happens, but without one, oral sex can still feel amazing, release dopamine, increase feelings of bonding, and build an emotional connection.
Take the pressure away!
Your partner doesn’t need to cum to love what you’re doing to her.
What to Do If You Hate Eating Pussy
If you hate eating pussy, it can be difficult to please your partner with oral sex. It’s worth investigating why you don’t like to eat pussy. Is it because of the stigma around the act, her particular hygiene, taste, or smell, or because you felt pressured into it by every woman you’ve been with before?
If you don’t want to eat pussy… DON’T!
No one should ever feel obligated to do something they don’t want to do, and that includes eating pussy. It’s completely up to you whether or not you choose to partake in this activity.
Be warned that if you don’t do it, you can’t expect her to fall to her knees to give you a blowjob whenever you want it.
Why should she?
You won’t make a comprise, and she won’t either. It’s not a great dynamic to be in, and it can ultimately lead to suffering in the relationship.
More importantly, eating pussy is a great way to improve your sex life and your partner’s satisfaction in the bedroom. Not only will it make her feel more appreciated and loved, but it can also be incredibly pleasurable for both of you.
If you’re still hesitant about eating pussy, try to think of it as an opportunity rather than a chore.
Avoid giving her the impression that you dislike giving her oral sex or that it’s just a chore; this will put her off immediately.
Instead, concentrate on the pleasure of getting to know one another through physical touch and revel in the moment together.
There are some things you can do to make the experience more enjoyable for you. Eat your woman’s pussy when fresh out of the shower (or in the shower!) if you have fears about the taste or smell. Use a flavored water-based lubricant to make it taste like vanilla, strawberries, or whatever else you like.
With some practice and patience, you may even come to love it!
Do Women Like It When You Eat Their Pussy
The answer to this question is yes — most of the time. Women love it when their partner takes the time to explore and pleasure them orally.
Eating pussy can be an incredibly intimate and pleasurable experience for both partners, as it allows for direct stimulation of the clitoris and other sensitive areas.
Not only does it feel amazing, but it can also be a great way to build trust and intimacy between partners.
There will be times when she won’t love it, such as when she’s feeling self-conscious about her body, taste, and smell or isn’t interested in sex overall.
There are many reasons why women lose interest in sex, including, but not limited to, stress, relationship problems, and health issues.
When the day comes that your woman isn’t interested in letting you go down on her, don’t take it personally. It might have nothing to do with your skills and techniques.
The only surefire to get to the root of the issue is, of course, by communicating with her and getting a better understanding of what is going on with her physically and mentally.
What If These Pussy Eating Tips Don't Work?
First of all, these tips WILL work.
But practice makes perfect, and everyone’s body is slightly different. What works for one person may not work for another, and you might need to adjust the intensity, pace, or combination of movements to find the perfect fit for your partner.
Talk to your partner about what they like and don’t like, and be open to trying new things.
If you’re still having trouble, there are plenty of resources available online that can help you learn more about how to eat pussy.
With enough practice, you’ll soon become an expert at giving your partner the pleasure she deserves!
