Do you want to make your partner feel sexual pleasure like never before?
While it’s true that having sex is one of the most fulfilling activities a couple can engage in, there are other ways to satisfy her that don’t involve sex. Yes, your penis can make a woman orgasm, but there’s a lot more fun and exciting ways to make her cum that don’t involve your penis!
In this article, we will show you how to satisfy a woman with your hands! From tracing her body and playing with her hair to using toys and combining different types of stimulation, these techniques will help you take your partner on a journey of pure delight.
Get ready to give her an unforgettable experience!
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Trace Her Body
Tracing her body is a good start to the evening. Start by lightly tracing the border of her lips, then move down to her neck, clavicles, soft inner thighs, and round breasts.
Make sure you’re barely touching her skin. Keep your movements light and gentle to start for an extra-sensual touch.
Use your index and middle finger to stroke the sides of her neck and behind her ears, which are incredibly sensitive spots. When you reach her stomach, trace a figure 8 around it and press lightly on the pubic bone, which can be a major source of pleasure for many women.
Finish off by running your fingertips over every inch of her body without focusing too much on any part of her. In particular, avoid going straight for her genitals — save that for last!
You can give a woman a mind-numbing orgasm with your fingers, but not if you jump in too deep or too soon. Work towards building sexual tension and anticipation. She should be dripping wet before your clothes are off, and if that’s not the case, slow down. Give her more attention. Trust us! When she screams your name, it will benefit you and her in the long run. For on building sexual tension, click here.
Play With Her Hair
There’s something so sexy and satisfying about playing with a woman’s hair. Whether running your fingers through her long, lush locks or tugging on them during rougher play, touching her hair will drive her wild. Why? The scalp is a sensitive part of the body, so stimulating it by tugging on the hair by the root feels fantastic for many people.
Let your hands roam freely—you can’t go wrong by giving her scalp some extra attention! And don’t forget: if she likes it rough, you can always give her hair a good tug (make sure you do it carefully!). The secret to pulling hair is going closer to the root than the ends. Grip the hair firmly (bonus points if she’s wearing a ponytail), and tug down on it. Click the link to learn more about the secrets of pulling a woman’s hair.
Hold Her Face While You Kiss
Holding her face while you kiss is a gesture of pure tenderness and affection, and it can take your intimate moments to the next level.
Whether going in for a deep, passionate kiss or lightly brushing your lips against hers, holding her face will send shivers down her spine.
Place both hands gently on either side of her face or trace small circles with your thumbs on her cheeks as you look deeply into each other’s eyes, increasing the moment’s intensity.
Hold Her Neck
The neck is a sensitive area for most women. Some love having their partner tightly grip their neck while moving in for a passionate kiss, whereas others prefer light strokes on the back of the neck. Proceed with caution here, especially if you have never tried a bit of choking in the bedroom. Those inexperienced with choking should check this out first!
Place one of your hands lightly on either side of her neck, then lean in for steamy kisses. With this move, you can easily increase the intensity by applying pressure at different points on her neck. Just make sure you don’t press too hard – you want her to feel sexy and safe at all times!
Spank Her
When done properly, spanking can be incredibly arousing and pleasurable. Start slowly by lightly slapping her with the palm of your hand as you kiss her body, gradually working up to a more vigorous slap as she gets aroused. Show some restraint – you don’t want to get too carried away unless she’s seriously into that.
Try playfully bending her over your knee during foreplay, tossing her over your shoulder, and giving a little spank while carrying her to the bedroom.
Finger Her
Fingering someone can be one of the most pleasurable moves in the bedroom. It’s a great way to get your partner feeling extra hot and bothered while also giving them a taste of what’s to come.
To finger her like a pro, do this.
Get Her in the Mood
Start by getting your lady in the mood. Foreplay is always a good start. Spend time on a quality kissing session, caressing, massaging, and some dirty talk.
An intimate atmosphere can also help, so prepare before inviting her over by ensuring the bedroom is clean and smells great. Light a few candles, dim the lights and play soft music.
Start Slow
Build up the sexual tension by starting slow! All too often, guys rush down there like it’s a war zone: Get in! Get out!
Tease her with light touches on the clitoris and labia. Build intensity as you go along by stimulating different areas of her vagina with your fingers.
Use Lube
Lube is your friend when it comes to fingering. It makes the experience smoother and more pleasurable!
A dab of lube on her most sensitive areas will heighten the sensations of your touch, so don’t be afraid to get a bit messy. Use saliva or genital-safe massage oil if you’re short on lube.
Explore Her Entire Vulva
Don’t just focus on one area. Rather, start by running your fingers over her clitoris and labia, then move onto the vaginal opening and inner walls of her vagina.
Don’t forget about the perineum, the area between her anus and vulva. Apply a little pressure here for some extra pleasure, and then (if she’s keen) use your pinky finger to play with her anus.
And if she’s still not satisfied after that, switch up your technique until you hit that sweet spot.
Don't Hyperfocus on the Clit
Sure, it’s true that the clit is extremely sensitive and can be a great source of pleasure for your lady. Also, her next mind blowing orgasm is likely to come from clitoral stimulation, but don’t hyper-focus on just the clitoris.
For instance, stimulating the entrance of her vagina when you lightly penetrate with your fingers can drive a lot of women crazy. This area is also packed with nerve endings and is a good starting point for fingering her or giving a pussy massage.
Stimulate Her G-Spot
Finding her G-Spot isn’t rocket science. In fact, it’s a lot easier than you think!
All you gotta do is slide your index finger (or middle and index fingers) inside her vaginal canal and make a come hither motion towards the front of her vagina with your fingertips.
You’ll know when you’ve hit the G-Spot because it is about a knuckle and a half deep and will feel slightly bumpy. During arousal, the area swells, making it even easier to find.
When stimulated properly, many women can squirt if sufficiently aroused and you hit the right place along the front wall.
Once you find it, keep up the same motion and pressure for a few minutes to maximize pleasure. You can also use your other hand to stimulate her clitoris or breasts simultaneously.
Vary Your Movements
Different women like different things – so don’t be afraid to experiment! Try varying your fingertip movements and pressure for different results.
If she’s enjoying your current technique, keep up the same motion. Most women need plenty of time to reach peak arousal, so don’t be afraid to go slow.
If you want to switch it up, try making circular motions around her clitoris or labia, tapping lightly on her clitoris with a single finger, or tracing figure eight around her clitoris.
Combine Fingering with Other Stimulation
If you’re looking to up the ante even more, combine your fingering technique with some other stimulation. Stimulating her clitoris, nipples, and breasts simultaneously can be a game-changer!
Think of it as a three-way: your fingers are doing their thing in her vagina while your mouth and hands are getting busy elsewhere.
Remember: Every Woman is Different
Keep in mind that every woman is different and likes different things. What works for one may not work for another, so don’t hesitate to ask her what she likes.
If you’re still having trouble figuring it out, talk to a sex educator or sex therapist – they can provide valuable tips and insight.
And don’t forget; communication is key. Make sure you’re paying attention to your partner’s reactions so that you know when she wants more intensity or if she needs a break.
Play With Her Nipples
Start off by caressing the entire breast without focusing on the nipples. Slowly work towards the nipples and make circles with your fingertips around the areola, then move onto the nipple. You can pinch it lightly or even gently flick it for maximum pleasure. If she’s into it, you can even try some light biting.
Massage Her
If you want to show your lady some love and care, it’s time to break out the massage oils and get to work.
She should feel comfortable, so start gently on her back, shoulders, neck, feet and other tense areas. This will help her relax and enjoy the intimate moment you two share. Then, focus on her more sensitive areas, like her inner thighs and lower abdomen.
You don’t have to be a certified masseur. Take your time, watch her reactions and body language, and enjoy it.
Use Toys On Her
Using toys on her will spice things up, increase her pleasure levels, and help her achieve an even more intense orgasm. Start by holding a Hitachi wand on her clitoris.
If she craves more stimulation, stimulate her G-spot with your fingers or let a sex toy do the work for you using this Hail Mary Combo.
Bottom line – toys are great for spicing things up in the bedroom and taking your sexual encounters to new heights!
Final Thoughts
That’s how to satisfy a woman with hands only, but of course, don’t stop there. Stimulate the clitoris with your tongue. Move on to penetrative sex for a whole body experience, and integrate other techniques to pleasure your lady.
No matter your skill level, there are plenty of ways to satisfy the lady in your life with your hands. From massaging her body to using toys, the possibilities are endless to show her some love. Don’t be afraid to get creative and experiment with different techniques until you find what works for her.
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