Sex is the bedrock of a relationship. That means although it is definitely not enough on its own to make a happy, fulfilling relationship, it also means that without it, the relationship falls apart.
While we guys are relatively easy to please in bed (a good blowjob and some kinkiness and we are ecstatic) girls are relatively more demanding – but then again, what else is new?
Here are a few ways you can make your girl happy in bed:
Dirty Talk
What’s the largest female erogenous zone?
No, it’s not that.
Nope, not even that.
It’s her mind.
Yeah, shocking, I know.
But most guys still don’t accept the simple fact that women are not men and will never be like us. They need more than us guys (who only need a pair of boobies and we are good to go) to get turned on. You need to turn them on mentally first.
And what better way to do that than with dirty talking?
Now (and this is where most guys get it wrong) you don’t want to go from no dirty talk at all to call her a whore the next day. If you do that, you can kiss your relationship goodbye.
You need to be smart about this. The best way to introduce dirty talking to your sex life is slowly and carefully. You don’t want to scare her with your vocabulary the first time you use it.
Start with using words and phrases like: “You like that, don’t you?” and “You like it when I’m deep inside of you, don’t you?” etc. The point is to ask simple questions she is going to say yes to.
The next step is to ask her to tell you how much she’s enjoying something. Make her involved in the dirty talking process. The more involved she is, the more she’s going to like it.
After you’re comfortable with that, start ordering her around. Small things first – flip over, move there, come here, etc.
After that…well, you get the idea. Just keep raising the stakes and enjoy your new kinky sex.
Last Longer In Bed
Some guys are shocked when I tell them that they need to last longer than 2.53 minutes in bed in order for a girl to enjoy sex. Who would have thought?
In all seriousness, in order to apply any of the other tips from this list, you must keep yourself from getting overly excited and shooting your love juice too early.
How long should you last?
As long as you need to make yourself and her both satisfied. A vague answer, I know – let’s see if I can give you some numbers.
An average male is ready to finish in 3-5 minutes. An average woman, on the other hand, usually has orgasm after 15 minutes of hot, sweaty sex. So you can comfortably take that 15 minutes and make it your goal (at first). Then, as you get more experienced and learn what turns her own, you can expand that lasting time to 20 minutes…30… even 60 minutes.
After all, why should she have only one orgasm?
Release Your Inner Christian Grey
50 Shades of Grey is an international movie AND book bestseller, and it isn’t because the author is a literary genius.
It’s because she has tapped into collective female subconsciousness – that kinky, dark, wild side that every woman has, but most are too afraid to show publically.
Why? Because they would be called a whore, a slut, or worse.
What you need to concern yourself with is that that other side of her is there…and, of course, you need to learn how to unleash it.
Take the ideas from the book as a guide.
I suggest you start off with some light stuff first – you don’t want to scare her. Add some spanking when you are in a doggy style position.
Buy a blindfold and tell her that wearing it will enhance her other senses and she will experience pleasure much more intensely.
After you’ve had your fun with that, now you can start introducing handcuffs, whips, and all other toys. Just always keep in mind the guiding principle – start off slowly (both in what toys to use and the intensity with which you use them) and then escalate.
Dress Up – Then Dress Down
Roleplay is not something reserved for Dungeons & Dragons and LARP groups.
Instead, you should use it in a way that will bring her out of her boring, mundane life into a fantasy world where anything and everything is possible.
And no, you don’t have to dress up as an elf in order to do that. (Actually, it is best you don’t do that at all.)
When roleplaying she wants to feel sexy and wanted… be that as a nurse that is visiting her patient, or a policewoman disciplining you for being a bad boy (hey, I’m not judging). The goal of this fantasy is excitement and adventure so be sure to think of a way to provide that.
Variation Is The Spice Of Life
The bed is the last place you should be having sex. Ok, that’s a little over the top but the point remains.
Too many guys are sucked into a boring routine where they only have sex in their own bed….in the same old boring positions…at the same time of the day…. every single time.
Don’t do that. Instead, spice things up.
If you are always starting sex in the missionary position, now start it in doggystyle. The last time you had sex outside your bed was on a prom night? Great – now it’s time to discover that car can serve many wonderful functions, besides taking you from point A to point B.
And don’t limit this newfound creativity to just poses and locations. There are a number of sex toys that can greatly enhance both yours and her sexual experience (although I would stay away from anything that involves her strapping something on – just saying).
P.S. To make your woman happy in bed you must first learn how to last longer in bed. Check out my guide, Secrets to Lasting Longer, if you want to go from “average Bob” to “Fabio the Stallion”. It has worked for thousands of guys all over the world – it will work for you, too.
