Easy Tips and Techniques for Men: How To Get A Girl Horny And Ridiculously Wet!

Easy Tips and Techniques for Men: How To Get A Girl Horny And Ridiculously Wet!

Sex is not a performance, so we don’t want you to walk away with that thought in your head. There’s nothing in particular that you need to memorize — a secret word, code, or hidden secret known to only the top alpha males.

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There’s nothing but your willingness to improve yourself, understand your partner sexually, and the amount of effort you’re willing to put into her that’s standing in the way of you building sexual tension and getting her super wet, horny, and ready for action.

These easy-to-implement methods are life-changing and will increase your chances of making her horny.

The Basics of Making A Girl Horny

Making a girl horny starts with you!

Do you ever wonder how some guys have all the luck with women? How come they can just walk up to a woman and make her swoon? Well, it’s because of three key aspects: physical appearance, personality traits, and social skills.

To get a girl horny, you must first understand what makes a man attractive to a woman.

There are many reasons a woman might find a particular guy attractive, but all three main areas above come into play at some point.

Luckily, we’ve covered easy ways to improve all three areas. Start with building confidence.

Be Confident

So let’s start by talking about what confidence means. Confidence is the belief that you can achieve whatever goal you set out to achieve.

If you believe that you can do something, then you’re likely to go ahead and try it. This is why confidence is such an important part of being successful.

Confidence is beneficial for a lot of reasons, including,

Learn How to Talk to Women

Communication skills are crucial when trying to get a girl horny. The first step towards having good communication skills is learning how to listen. Listening is essential because it lets you know what the person wants from you.

Next, ask questions. You should ask open-ended questions to learn as much about her as possible.

Finally, express yourself. Expressing yourself means showing emotions through words and actions. Despite what films will have you believe, women do not want an emotionless stone that merely grunts to express every emotion, from pure amazement to utter disdain.

Be mindful of your body language, and listen with your presence. Women like men who give them attention (a topic we will discuss later), so give her your full attention if you want to make her horny and interested in you.

Maintain Eye Contact

Eye contact is sexy and shows confidence. Looking down at your feet when talking to a woman shows her that you are unsure of yourself. Or when you glance around the room when talking to someone, it communicates that you might not be that interested in what they have to say.

So, keep eye contact. Don’t look down. Keep your gaze steady. It’s normal to look away when talking to someone you find attractive briefly. After all, you might be nervous. Nevertheless, do your best to make eye contact and maintain it during the conversation.

Don’t stare at her too much, though. Blink normally and glance away briefly from time to time. There’s a healthy balance between too much eye contact and too little.

Be Aware of Your Body Language

Smile! It’s for more than a picture.

Nonverbal communication is just as important as verbal communication. Sometimes it’s not what you say that breaks the sexual tension and sexual interest; it’s how you present yourself.

Something as insignificant as posture communicates a lot of information to a woman. Do you want to communicate that you are a strong and capable man worthy of her attention? Or that you are disinterested in her, or worse, that you’re afraid of her?

Have Good Hygiene

Good hygiene is essential for sexual attraction. You can be the sexiest man in the world, but if you smell like a trash bin, it’s game over! She will not get horny sitting next to a man that smells like he hasn’t showered since the Obama administration.

Shave regularly or trim your facial hair if you are growing a beard. Keep it neat and maintained.

Keep your nails trimmed. No woman wants a man to put his fingers inside her if it looks like colonies of bacteria, viruses, fungi, and a few pieces of dinner are currently calling your nail bed home.

Get a good barber. Long hair or short hair, it doesn’t matter! If it looks clean and healthy, some women will find it attractive.

Wear Better Clothes

When you go out, dress well. Wear clean clothes. Women are attracted to men who care about their appearance.

You don’t have to be a rich man to look nice in clothes. It’s not about owning the most expensive clothing item, it’s about how well you take care of your clothing and how you put the outfit together that matters.

Work on Your Physique

Women look for signs of health and fitness.

Being attractive plays an essential role in making a girl horny. If you look like the man of her dreams, and she spends her entire day thinking about you, she will get aroused.

To make a woman horny, you must look your best and present the best version of yourself. If that means increasing the number of times you go to the gym each week, do it!

Certain aspects of your appearance you can’t control, and there’s someone out there for you that will genuinely be into that or not care. Appearances are not everything, so don’t focus on the things you can’t change, such as a bald head or a short stature. Invest your time in a better barber, a gym membership, better-fitting clothes, more expensive clothes, etc. In other words, change the things that are totally within your control for the better, and you will make a woman horny.

Make a Girl Horny Using Her Mind

The following section focuses on using a woman’s mind to trigger spontaneous desire and make her super horny!

Warning! Not every tactic here is instant! You will need to think of some of these moves as a slow cooker, taking its sweet time to heat up. Other suggestions will deliver instantaneous results and have her super horny in minutes.

The suggestions in this section will implore you to connect with the woman of your desire on a more mental and emotional level rather than a physical one. In the next section, we will discuss physical actions you can do to make her horny.

 

Know Her Sexual Needs

If you know what she likes, you’ll be able to give it to her. When you know what turns her on, you won’t waste time trying to guess. Instead, you’ll focus on giving her exactly what she wants. The best part is that once you learn what she likes, you can do it repeatedly.

The answers to these questions are not at all obvious to most people. Sure, you might get lucky and guess correctly that she has a weakness for being spanked, but you will go a lot further by asking and discussing how you can better please each other in the bedroom.

She’s shy! She won’t tell me.

If she’s nervous, make the environment as warm as possible to encourage her to open up. Some girls have a lot of emotional baggage that prevents them from expressing their sexuality. Accept that it can take time. Be patient.

You can suggest writing down your fantasies. This might be easier for her if she’s too timid to speak openly about her desires.

Know Her Love Language

How does she get horny? What turns her on? If you aren’t sure, read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It’s a long-time bestseller for a reason.

Women expect to receive love in five different ways: words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, or receiving gifts. When you understand her love language, you will be better able to make her horny. Why waste time buying her expensive gifts if that’s not what she wants or needs to feel sexual desire?

Take the Erotic Blueprint. Are you energetic, sensual, kinky, sexual, or a shape-shifter? We wrote a detailed explanation of the Erotic Blueprint, but in short, it helps you determine the best way to get things going in the bedroom.

Talk About Sex

Talking about sex is a surefire way to get the topic on her mind! There are multiple ways you can go about this.

Ask her a blunt question about her sexual interest. This might not work for some women, especially if it seems completely out of context and unrelated to anything happening at that moment. However, some women might coyly respond, “Oh, why do you ask?” Giving you an opportunity to tell her that you’ve been thinking about her today, and you just wanted to ask.

Another way to do this is to go on a date and bring up a time when you had madly passionate sex. For example, “Do you remember our honeymoon in Cancun? We had some wild nights, didn’t we?” A flashback of those days will enter her mind, automatically putting sex on her mind.

Talk Dirty

We’ve also written a detailed explanation of how to talk dirty. Spoiler alert! It works! If you want to learn how to dirty talk and use sexual expression inside and outside the bedroom, check out this tutorial, but warning, that your relationship will never be the same.

Dirty talk can be used anytime, both inside and outside the bedroom!

Know Her Interests

Women love when men take an interest in what they like. Try to incorporate those things into your conversations, whether it’s food, sports, movies, music, hobbies, or whatever else she enjoys. Showing interest in something she loves will make her feel special and appreciated — key ingredients to getting her wet and super horny.

Give Her Space

Don’t expect a woman to jump into bed with you whenever you want. Give her time to want you before trying to tear her pants off. Take it slow, and she will get horny.

Respect Her Boundaries

Respect her boundaries. Don’t ask her to do anything sexual that she doesn’t want to do.

This might sound counterproductive— The way to get more sex is to act like you don’t want it. However, it works!

Women want a man that is respectful of their boundaries, needs, body, and time. If she gets the sense that you care about her on more than a physical level, she will feel comfortable getting horny and initiating sex with you.

Make Her Feel Like a Goddess

Women need to feel special. Whether she’s just a one-night stand or the mother of your children and your wife, if you want to make a girl horny, she needs to feel special when she’s with you. It’s the most important thing that will set you apart from the men in her life. They don’t give her that surge of energy, make her blush, or make her feel like she’s the queen of her kingdom. You do!

Women are insecure at their core. Even the most alpha female has at least one area where she’s unconfident or doubtful of her abilities or looks. If you can take away some of those insecurities, she will become obsessed with getting attention from you and thus want to please you sexually.

When it comes to women, it’s a give and take. Give her attention, make her feel fucking amazing when she’s with you, and she’ll give you whatever you want.

Don’t Compare Her to Your Ex

She won’t feel amazing if you compare her to an ex-partner. This should have to go without saying, but it needs to be said. Many guys will casually or accidentally slip into the conversation something regarding your ex. Unless your ex is your child’s mother or a best friend, she should not exist anymore.

When you say things like that, it lets the woman know that you still think about your ex. This might not be true. Maybe it was just an off comment, but one too many of those will convince her that you are still in love with your ex. Real life and her inner world do not always match up. A woman’s imagination is a powerful tool for both good and evil, so do not let your ex’s name slip into too many conversations, or you risk making her think you still care about the woman.

This, too, must be said — your ex’s body is not your partner’s body. Just because your ex Sofia loved bed boards creaking and bedpost weakening hardcore smack downs in the bedroom, that does not mean your partner will feel the same. 

Every woman wants different things, and if you want to make a girl horny, she should feel like you are entering the relationship with a blank canvas.

Give Her Attention

This is where a lot of guys go wrong. They don’t realize that giving a woman attention is more than buying her gifts or taking her on expensive holidays to the Caribbean Islands. Don’t be mistaken — some women will go crazy over that and be ready to sacrifice an arm.

However, not every man has the opportunity to give those things to his partner, and not every woman places value on those things. This is why learning her love language is key to unlocking her mind and knowing, without a doubt, that your actions will please her, show affection in a way she understands, and get you a favorable result in the bedroom.

Giving attention to women is easy. Just notice the small details about her, and don’t forget the important things she tells you.

If she cuts her hair, notice and compliment it without her having to say anything. Say, “Your hair looks nice today. Did you do something about it?” and she will wonder how you knew when so many others did not notice or care.

Tell her she looks good if she has changed her diet and is working out more. It doesn’t matter if she’s only lost 1/5 of a kilogram; play it up as if she’s a completely different and hotter woman than last week. Don’t overdo it or make it theatrical so she thinks you’re being sarcastic. You can say, “That dress looks superb on you today. I don’t know why.” She’ll think, Oh my, he noticed that I lost weight. Is it noticeable already? and feel really good about herself.

Randomly bring it up if she told you weeks ago about her friend’s birthday. Mention it casually during a conversation with her. She’ll be shocked that you remember such a random statement and think that you pay attention to her words and care about her friends.

You can make a girl horny by showing her you value her time and words. Give her eye contact and make her feel you’re giving her your full attention.

If she thinks you care, she’s going to care about you. The key is not overdoing it. You don’t have to remember every detail or cling to every word. Keep it casual and slide compliments into conversation randomly without making it seem like you put an extraordinary amount of effort into it.

Take Her on the Best Date of Her Life

You can’t expect her to get dripping wet if you’ve put zero effort into the date. Your effort can be as simple as lighting some candles and running a bath for her before she gets home from work.

Next date, do a suit and tie night where you dress up to the absolute nines, take her out on a fancy date, book a hotel room and take her there after the date. If you feel your relationship has lost its spark, reignite it by showing her some effort.

A Surprise is Good

Women enjoy surprise gifts, romance, and trips because it means she’s able to sit back and appreciate it without having to plan, think, or do anything.

Find out what she likes, and surprise her with it. This shows that you care and are not afraid to put in the effort, making a woman horny.

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Tell Her Why She's Sexy

When you talk to a woman, focus on telling her what makes her special. Don’t only say ”You’re beautiful.” Instead, tell her something specific about her that makes her stand out from the crowd. 

For instance, you could say, “I love watching you laugh,” or “Your eyes sparkle when you smile.” 

Tell her how much you want her and what you like about her. She should not have to guess if you like her small breasts or if you wish they were larger. You have to tell her how much you absolutely adore them.

Likewise, she needs to hear how much you love her touching you, how turned on you are, and how you can’t wait to see her again. Positive reinforcement — research it. It’s key to getting animals to repeat certain behaviors while discouraging other behaviors. It works on humans too.

Be Honest About What You Like 

It’s okay to admit that certain things sexually arouse you. For instance, if you like watching porn as foreplay, tell her. If you like kissing, tell her.

Women love honesty, and having a man in the bedroom who is confident enough to ask for what he likes is a major turn-on for many women.

Give Her Something to Gawk At

Women are indeed visual creatures. But that doesn’t mean that you have to look like a model.

Give her a strip tease next time you head to the bedroom. Walk around the bedroom in your underwear or completely nude.

When you’re in public, dress to turn her on. Allow her to admire just how good you look in a suit and tie, hiking boots, or whatever else makes her imagine you taking care of her in more ways than one, if you catch our drift.

Be Romantic

After a relationship has gone on for a while, finding ways to be intimate with your partner seems more challenging. You might search for things on the internet, as you are doing now, or just give up and hope that the fire will magically come back on its own. Spoiler! It won’t.

Or maybe it’s a new relationship, and you don’t know how to be intimate and romantic with her.

Let’s clear up the confusion. Most girls are hopelessly romantic and fall for any romantic gesture. Don’t keep her wondering about your feelings for her. Do something!

Look Into Her Eyes

Eye contact is a very powerful tool!

Never underestimate the power of a romantic stare, eye contact during sex, or eye contact during moments when care and compassion are needed.

When you approach your partner, place your hand under her chin and lift her head up to meet your graze. Allow a moment to pass before going in for a passionate kiss.

Be Playful and Fun

You don’t have to take romance, seduction, or sex seriously. Allow your playful side to shine from time to time. Whatever that means to you and your partner.

Leave stress outside the door

As much as she loves spontaneous desire, such as being grabbed and taken as soon as she enters the bedroom or when you show up at work with a handful of flowers and her favorite takeaway lunch, she is not going to be into it if she has 99 problems that need her immediate attention.

Women are amazing, and that’s why we love them. They work, care for children, and maintain their looks, but those responsibilities take a toll on her over time. If she is no longer the sex-crazed manic you knew two years ago, it might be because she wasn’t a full-time career woman and mom two years ago.

Okay, so you don’t have any kids? What’s the issue, then? Is she stressed out about an illness in the family, overdue bills, graduating with her master’s degree, etc.? Any one of these things will turn a sex-crazed manic into an overworked, exhausted, and sexually disinterested partner over time.

If you want to make her horny, stress can not be a part of the equation.

Women + stress does not equal good sex.

However, woman + no stress + attention = incredibly horny and unrestrained sexual being.

So you work too. How can you decrease her stress when you’ve buried it yourself? That’s a good question, but none of that needs to matter or exist inside the bedroom. For example, you have a car that needs a new pair of expensive tires. Will those new tires help you in the bedroom? No. So why worry about it now when you’re trying to knock her socks off?

Don’t bring the outside world into your bedroom. When it’s you and her, it’s just you and her.

Get Feedback After Sex

Don’t skip the aftercare if you want her to return to your bedroom. Aftercare is following up with her after sex and asking for her feedback.

Many guys never openly ask women about their experiences and move on to discussing something unrelated to sex. Don’t do this! When you ask for feedback, it gives you a chance to do more of what she likes, and, more importantly, it shows you care about her and are affectionate — two traits that will keep her coming back.

After sex, don’t be afraid to just lie in bed together. Unless it’s a quickie that both of you wanted, you shouldn’t be jumping up off the bed to run out the door.

Watch Porn Together

One way to make a woman horny is to watch porn together. Many women do enjoy using porn as a warm-up in the bedroom. Scroll on your favorite porn site, and let her choose the content to ensure you find something she likes.

Watch together to build sexual tension. Finally, when things become too hot and heavy, close the computer and begin your reenactment of whatever you just watched.

Watch Sex Scenes Together

Some women aren’t interested in porn, and attempting to watch some with her might backfire. Proceed with caution.

However, watching a sex or passionate kissing scene in a Hollywood movie should be okay with most women. Put on her favorite romantic film and watch together as the couple on the screen goes in for a passionate kiss. Reach out, caress her cheek, and kiss her.

Make a Girl Horny With Your Touch

You should never go into a sexual encounter thinking that you must perform some magic trick to get her going. That just won’t work. All women respond differently to different types of stimulation. Some women love being touched gently, while others love rough, hard, fast, deep, and intense.

So, if you want to get a girl horny, you’ve got to learn to recognize her signals. Once you figure out what works for her, you can start using those techniques whenever you want to get her hot.

But, for those just getting started and who aren’t sure what her signals are, try one or all of the tricks below to get a girl horny fast.

Hold Hands

Holding hands is simple yet effective. Holding hands communicate a lot of information. It can signal that you want to protect her if you’re in a crowded or dangerous place. 

It shows comfort when you reach over and touch her hand in moments of pain, stress, or uneasiness. Not only that, but it shows interest when you touch someone’s hand for the first time in public.

Holding hands lets her know that you want to be close to her, which is a major turn-on for women who want to feel supported, protected, and loved inside and outside the bedroom.

Play With Her Hair

Touching it, pulling it, twisting it — whatever gets her going.

The trick to playing with hair and making it sexy is to keep it playful. Some women love having their hair pulled back with force while in doggy style, but when you’re just chilling on the sofa, the better course of action is to play with your hair in a soft and playful manner.

Kiss Her Neck

Next time you’re kissing, don’t stop at the lips. Take your time slowly moving down her neck or ear. The key to a passionate kiss is using more than your lips, so don’t allow your hands to be too idle. Play with her waist, hold her hands, caress her neck, or trance an outline on her back with your fingers.

Touch Her Body

Touching is a huge part of sexual attraction. Whether you touch her face, hair, arms, legs, or breasts, touching is a powerful tool for turning a woman on.

You finally get the girl of your dreams to come home with you. Instead of taking your time to really enjoy her body, you rush to rip off her clothing, put your hands down her pants, and then whip out your dick to stick it in as soon as possible.

You already missed a golden opportunity to admire and see her body. Never go straight to penetration when you can do many other activities to build anticipation and sexual tension.

Don’t get us wrong, there are times when a quickie is precisely what she wants or needs. Some ladies love a 5-minute pleasure session before work. However, the relationship can not consist of only quickies.

Women work better when sexual tension is high. Allow her to fantasize about all the things you will do to her. Tease the hell out of all her erogenous zones to make a girl horny.

Erogenous zones are places along the body that cause sexual desire. You can work from the top of her head down to her toes, altogether skipping her vagina, and still leave her soaking wet and completely turned on from all the sexual tension you’ve built up in her body.

Her scalp, neck, nipples, waist, inner thighs, and even toes are all erogenous zones.

Pull or play with her hair, give her a neck massage, grab her and hold her by her waist, or whatever random touches she likes to get her going and thinking about sex.

As you can see, you really don’t have to work hard to get a girl horny. Many men just miss out on simple yet effective methods to get their girlfriends in the mood without taking off their clothes.

Give Her a Sensual Massage

Before sex, ask her to lie on the bed for a full body massage. Grab some oils and lotions from inside the kitchen and rub her down from top to bottom. Start on the backside, then ask her to turn over and massage the front. She should be completely nude, but this also works in underwear. Any reason to touch a beautiful woman is a good enough to try this tip.

Give Her a Pussy Massage

When you show that you adore her pussy, she will have so much fun showing it off and giving it to you. In other words, this will make a girl horny.

You need to absolutely love her pussy. In fact, every inch of that woman’s body should be on your list of favorite things in this world, and if it isn’t, then absolutely under no circumstances can she feel that this is not the case.

When you are with her, never go straight for the clit. The clit is dessert after a superb full-course meal at the five-star restaurant that is her body. Give her a pussy massage to show love to every inch of her body.

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Eat Her Pussy

If you haven’t already done so, now would be a good time to try giving oral sex. Oral sex is one of the best ways to get a woman off. Not only does it allow you to give pleasure to her, but many women can experience multiple orgasms receiving oral. 

The key to eating pussy is to eat it as if your life depended on it! Never give a woman oral sex if you don’t actually want to. 

Try to Have Sex in a Public Place

Find a place where no one else is around and make out with her. Once you’ve done that, move on to making love.

For some women, the idea of making love in a public place where there is a chance of getting caught is super arousing. Even if you don’t end up doing it, the mere suggestion might get the blood flowing to the right areas so when you arrive home, she’s ready to go.

Use Sex Toys

Lastly, sex toys come in multiple shapes, sizes, and speeds to deliver the most pleasure possible. Sometimes the idea of a sex toy is enough to make some women super wet. For others, merely looking at sex toys in front of them or online can also do the trick.

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Better yet, if you or she owns a sex toy, pull it out and use it the next time you’re together in bed. Spend an entire evening pleasuring each other with only sex toys, if you can!

She's Still Not Horny?

You tried everything to make her horny and keep her coming back to you, but it did not work. Here are a few possible reasons why she’s still not horny.

Resources

If you’re looking for deeper insights into pleasing a woman and becoming the best partner she’s ever had, consider enrolling in the Best She’s Ever Had course, where you’ll learn practical advice for improving your sex life from how to actually eat a woman out, initiating anal, and becoming a leader inside and outside of the bedroom. Access our free online resources and Facebook group, hear from other guys on our online forum, and read the Best She’s Ever Had, a best-selling book on Amazon, or invest further into your sex life by joining one of our exclusive 5-Day retreats and online academies.

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