Have you ever watched a porn clip and wondered: how do pornstars last so long?
You’re not alone. When people hear that I’m an ex-porn star that’s usually one of the first questions they ask me. (right after asking me if I had sex with XYZ porn actress.)
In fact, I get asked this question so often that I decided to create an entire step-by-step program on how to last longer in bed naturally.
I understand some guys don’t want to buy my program. They’re not ready to take their sex life to the next level, and that’s okay, it’s not for everyone.
For everyone who doesn’t want to buy my program, but wants to know how porn stars last so long, I created this free resource to dispel the myths and once for all explain our secrets.
I’ll detail not only the specific techniques we use to last longer in bed, but I’ll also tell you which advice we do NOT follow, and why not.
Truth is – there’s a lot of BS out there trying to explain how pornstars last so long.
These articles are most often written by haters who’ve never worked a day in the porn industry.
They want you to think it’s all tricks, that there’s no way you can last as long as pornstars.
They’re wrong, and after reading this guide, you’ll understand why. Let’s dive right in and start with some common “last longer” advice that we don’t follow.
BS Advice #1 – We Don’t Think About Baseball
This is the first thing people hear from their buddies when they start looking for advice on how to beat premature ejaculation.
Even worse, all the internet gurus love to talk about how great this technique is. For the unaware, this technique is where you think about things other than sex in order to last longer.
Specifically, you think about something boring and unarousing, that’ll turn your excitement down a notch.
To do this, you think about baseball, do some math problems, or even imagine that you’re having sex with a fat, ugly, old, wrinkly, girl (yeah, really) to lower your arousal levels and lasting longer in bed.
The main problem with that advice?
You don’t get to enjoy the sex!
You’re trying to actively block your mind from being in the moment. I don’t know about you, but I like to think about sex and savor every minute of it.
Sex is truly a blessing, and I don’t want to waste my time doing multiplication in my head while screwing.
This advice is so prevalent that a couple of other guys and I always chuckle when somebody asks us how we last so long. I didn’t choose porn as a career because I wanted to imagine that I was getting blown by a fatty – and you shouldn’t do that either.
Can you imagine what it’s like being a porn star, having sex for 30 plus minutes a day on camera, with some of the hottest girls around……..while thinking about baseball?
Hell no. There you go – you can go back to thinking about sex while you’re having sex.
Forget about this advice and make fun of any guy who suggests it.
BS Advice #2 – We Don’t Practice The Start-Stop Method
This is a funny one that is often recommended by sex therapists and sex advisors. (By the way, have you noticed that all those “sex experts” always look like the people who don’t get laid at all? Or are at least 200 years old?)
Basically, with this method, you pull out your dick when you feel you’re about to come. You pump and pump and pump until you’re at that final stroke…then you stop, right before you orgasm.
The other way to do this is called “the squeeze technique.”
This is done by having sex until you’re close to cumming, but instead of just STOPPING, you SQUEEZE.
Take your thumb and index finger, like you’re doing the “OK” sign, and squeeze your penis right below the head. This will stop the flow of cum and halt your orgasm.
Both of these techniques suck because you’re stopping sex every few minutes. I don’t have to tell you that your wife or girlfriend will not appreciate that (especially if she’s near the climax and you pull out – good luck with that).
Can you imagine the look on her face? You’re getting hot and heavy, she’s moaning and going crazy on your dick, she’s about to reach the holy orgasm when…RED LIGHT, you slam on the brakes and pull out.
This technique has the same problems as the baseball technique – namely, you’re depriving yourself of the pleasure of actually having sex.
That’s not what you want. You want sex to be the highlight of your week, an amazing experience you share with your wife or girlfriend.
This is not the time to be stopping, or thinking about baseball.
Instead, improve your sexual skills so the experience can become even more mind-blowing.
If you can last longer in bed, not only will you be able to enjoy it and have better orgasms, but your woman will enjoy it more too.
BS Advice #3 – We Don’t Use Drugs And Chemicals
You will find some people mention how a porn actor takes drugs or uses some sort of chemical to make themselves last longer.
And such tall tales float around not just about some male porn star. No, even female performers are supposedly taking something to ease the pain when the scene involved anal sex or whatever.
Well, the reality is quite different. Anyone who has experience in shooting an adult film, no matter if they are a producer or one of the actors, will tell you that drugs on proper porn-shooting sets are prohibited.
An adult performer will, well, not be allowed to do their job if they are seen bringing or taking anything that resembles drugs or chemicals.
Anyone reasonable will not want to risk putting themselves and other crew members in danger.
And yes, it is true that there are instances when you might see a female porn actor looking like she is on drugs because her pupils are dilated, or her eyelids are droopy, but this is seen in amateur porn.
True professionals stay away from drugs. If anything, they aim to have a healthy lifestyle, including a proper diet and plenty of exercise. And speaking of working out…
Pornstar Tip #1: Kegels
When I first heard of kegels, I just thought they were those exercises that women use to tighten their pussy.
Well, I was half-right. The truth is that men too can use kegel exercises not only to last longer in bed but also to shoot sperm like a fire hose.
(Check out this article if you want to learn how to shoot sperm like a pornstar)
For those who don’t know, these exercises work the PC muscles (also known as pelvic floor muscles).
These are the muscles that surround the base of your penis. They’re responsible for controlling the flow of pee and semen out of the penis.
Most guys don’t think about these muscles and only train their biceps and triceps. This is a grave mistake. If you want to be a better lover, you have to strengthen your kegel muscles.
Most guys don’t even bother training their PC muscles and it does not take too long before they shrink and become useless. Our goal is to build these muscles up to the point that you can control your semen.
To do this, you must practice kegel exercises outside of sex.
You see, the way it works is that practicing and doing kegel exercises every day for a few minutes, your pelvic floor muscles grow stronger. Once it becomes strong enough, you can then squeeze it when you feel an orgasm approaching and just continue with sex.
No pulling out, no imagining a fat, hairy beast, no squeezing necessary. If you’ve never done the exercises before, don’t worry, they’re pretty easy.
Once you learn how to do them, you can practice them anytime and anywhere. It’s actually fun, and a good way to distract yourself during a boring class or meeting.
The best way to find your PC muscle is to stop your urine flow when you’re urinating. The muscle you squeezed then (with nothing but your mind) is the muscle you were looking for.
Remember, the same muscles that stop pee also stop semen. If you can stop semen, you’ll stop your orgasm, and keep having sex. Pelvic floor muscles are just like every other muscle in your body.
You have to train them intelligently and also let them rest.
For beginners, a simple routine would be:
- Locate your Muscle
- Squeeze it
- Hold for a few seconds
- Release the squeeze
Repeat this for 10 reps, and take a break, this is a set. Do three sets and call it quits. Do this routine three times a week until you can progress onto a more advanced routine.
Once your muscles are stronger, it’s time to add some difficulty. There are two advanced techniques I’ll go over today.
One is extended squeezing. In order to strengthen your muscles, squeeze the muscle for as long as you can, then rest for 15 seconds. Do this 5 times, making sure to count how long you’re able to squeeze. Practice this and over the next few weeks, you’ll be able to squeeze much longer.
The next is quickfire kegels. Take a stopwatch, and set it for 30 seconds. Start the timer, and then try to do as many kegels as possible, squeezing your muscle rapidly one after another. Count how many reps you get, and just like squeezing, you’ll see gains over time.
Getting better at these exercises will definitely make you be able to control your orgasm better in bed. If you want to really last longer, you have to practice.
Pornstar Tip #2: Edging
You’re not alone if you’ve never heard of edging. It’s not that popular as kegels, but, in my mind, it’s much more effective.
Edging simply means that you are masturbating for a very long time, usually anywhere between 20 and 40 minutes, without ejaculating during that time.
Your goal is to prolong the amount of time you can last in a highly aroused state. By practicing lasting longer while masturbating, you train yourself to last longer in bed.
The problem with a lot of guys is they don’t practice having enough sex. To make matters worse, when they jack off, they just try to get it done as fast as possible.
They don’t want anyone to catch them in the act, so they squeeze it out real quick and get on with their day.
This is bad and trains you to be a two-pump chuck. If you want to last longer, you have to practice.
The way to do this is to climb “the arousal ladder.” Imagine an arousal scale going from 1 to 10.
Level 1 is where you’re not even slightly excited, and level 10 is where you are milliseconds away from an orgasm.
During sex, your goal is to get to level 7 and stay there for the entire time. Anything below, and you risk losing your erection. Anything above, and you could blow your orgasm.
How do you know what the different levels feel like?
That’s where edging comes in.
Think of edging as sort of a boot camp for the real thing. Just like MMA fighters train with punching bags and sparring partners before stepping into the octagon, so should you practice edging as a practice for sex with your wife or girlfriend.
Now, most guys ask me if they should ejaculate at the end of their edging session or not.
My answer is: It depends. Some guys ejaculate only once a week, and they are fine with that. Others find that if they don’t come at the end of every session, they will last even shorter the next time they have sex. Other guys find that if they orgasm too much while edging, they can’t get it up with their wife.
So, my advice to you is to try to experiment and find out what is the best situation for you. There is no one size fits all solution.
If you want to learn more about edging, check out the ultimate guide I wrote about edging here
Pornstar Tip #3: The Right Positions
Believe it or not, there are good sex positions and bad sex positions.
Good sex positions are those where you are fully in control of your ejaculation and can last as long as you want to. These are ones where you can pump away for hours, loving the moment, without worrying about finishing too soon.
Bad sex positions are the ones where you are quickly aroused and ready to ejaculate within a few minutes. These are the ones that will tip you over the edge as soon as you put it in her. Avoid these unless you want to come.
Now, most male porn stars can have sex in every position possible. We are, after all, trained professionals.
Trust me, it is not easy to get aroused when there is a cameraman a few inches away from your dick, not to mention how bigger productions have the whole crew watching. Oh, and do not get me started on feeling overheated from the lights while you are stuck in an uncomfortable position.
This is made possible through the disciplined practice of kegels and edging. Even then, we still prefer a few positions when it comes to lasting longer.
We save the rest for when it’s time for the money shot.
The worst position for premature ejaculation?
It’s the missionary position. You’re on the top; you’re working hard, and your cock is overstimulated. All of the blood flow is rushing from your body (the highest point) to your dick (the lowest point). It’s no wonder you’re ready to pop after two minutes.
Now, if the man-on-top is the worst sex position…is the reverse also true? Is woman-on-top the best sex position for lasting longer?
Why, yes, yes it is. If you want to last longer, try beginning the intercourse with the cowgirl position.
It will instantly grant you at least a few more minutes in bed, plenty of time for you to try out some other tricks for lasting longer.
P.S. After getting hundreds of emails from guys all over the world asking me to teach them how to last longer in bed, we decided to do something about it.
We launched the Best She Ever Had Online Academy which includes how to last as long as you want, but also how to become a beast in the bedroom in every area.