Most guys approach sex in a very mechanical way.
It usually goes like this: get naked, insert penis, have sex in missionary position at precisely 2.7 thrusts a second. Proceed to have an orgasm after 5-10 minutes (at best). No variation in speed, positions, or thrusting techniques.
The end result ends up being robotic sex devoid of any emotion (and it also shortens your lasting time dramatically.) The only sounds made are minor creaks from the bed. No words from you or moans from here, just dead silence.
I’m exaggerating here to make a point, but there is a serious lack of creativity among men when it comes to variety in their sex life which is a real shame.
I totally understand it, because I used to do the same thing. Growing up, we watch a lot of porn and end up trying to emulate what the actors do. The problem is just that, these guys are actors and only do what looks good on camera, not what actually feels good.
Believe me, after shooting hundreds of porn scenes, I’d much rather have sex off-camera. Even though you get to be with super hot porn girls, the sex itself is robotic…constant thrusting while the cameraman hovers behind me. Not fun.
The other problem is that men are scared to try something new. We get in the habit of doing the same thing every time, and that’s what we do in bed. Doing the same thing every single time is easy, so we do it without considering the alternatives.
Women go absolutely wild for men that surprise them and always keep them guessing in the bedroom. Keep her on her toes and spice up your sex life by constantly introducing new things in the bedroom – that’s the key to a happy and fulfilled sex life.
One of the best ways you can accomplish this is with different thrusting techniques. The key here is to mix and match – if you keep doing just one thing, no matter how good she feels in the moment, you will become predictable and she will get bored, which is a death sentence to your sex life.
You can have the best technique in the world, but if you do the same “trick” for hours, the novelty will wear off. Avoid this by introducing new methods every few minutes. That’ll keep her coming back for more – that night, the next day, and beyond.
Here are a few tips to get you started.
Mix It Up A Little
One of the easiest ways to introduce variety into your thrusting techniques is by changing the speed and tempo of your thrusting.
Go fast for 10-20 seconds, then pause and go really slow for the next minute. Have a dozen shallow thrusts before going all-in with the deep ones. Vary the speed and depth – that way she can’t predict what you will do next.
Of course, common sense applies here. If she is grabbing you and telling you to go faster or deeper, don’t suddenly slow down – that will just piss her off. Watch her reactions and adapt to them. On the other hand, if you feel you are near an ejaculation, it would be best if you slow down.
It’s usually best to start slowly and then escalate. If you’re just starting with sex, don’t start jackhammering right away. She might not be that wet yet and it will be unpleasant for her.
In that case, you need to spend more time on foreplay. Here are some fresh foreplay ideas that’ll guarantee she’s hot and ready to go.
Next, start off with slow thrusts for a few minutes and then introduce more speed and variety.
Slow thrusts should be the opposite of wild jackhammering. Take your time and make sure your strokes are long, hard, and deep.
To do this, you can use positions that don’t facilitate thrusting but are great for deep penetration. This includes spoons position, or if you’re looking for a challenge, seated position. Sit upright in a chair or on the edge of the bed and have her straddle you, for deep penetration.
Over time, as you become more experienced, all of these techniques will become instinctive and you won’t even have to think about what to do and what techniques to use – but for now, try to consciously think and change the depth and speed of your thrusting.
Taoist Thrusting Technique
At this point, you know you have to add variety to your routine, but you’re not sure exactly how. Don’t worry, Big Mike is going to help.
Here’s a technique to get you started. It’s called the “Taoist Thrusting Technique” and it goes like this:
First, you do 9 shallow thrusts and 1 deep thrust.
Then 8 shallow thrusts and 2 deep ones.
Then 7 shallow ones and 3 deep thrusts.
And so on, until you do 10 deep ones.
Then, if you want to keep going, reverse the practice until you’re back at 9 shallow thrusts. The number doesn’t have to be exact, but progress the number of thrusts like described.
This technique is great because the variation in thrusts will keep her in suspense – and it will be infinitely more enjoyable than the same-old boring pumping.
It is also great for you because you will never wonder what to do next – just count the thrusts and follow the plan. Eventually, you’ll develop a rhythm and the counting will become unnecessary. Until then, follow the technique as described.
This is also one of the great first thrusting techniques to try out because you’re not doing anything drastically different than before so she won’t freak out, but still, it is different enough that she will be able to enjoy it immensely.
There’s another thing about different thrusting techniques, you don’t have to warn her or prepare her in advance. There’s a ton of kinky tricks you can keep up your sleeve, but a lot of them require her agreement before you start.
For example, anal. You’re not going to just stick your penis in her butt. It takes preparation and confirmation that she wants it. Different thrusting techniques, you can break out anytime, and they can even help you last longer.
Thrusting Techniques To Last Longer In Bed
When it comes to thrusting techniques, if you want to last longer in bed, you’ll need to know several things.
One of the most common causes of premature ejaculation (due to thrusting techniques) is overstimulation of the head of the penis.
In plain English: when you only do fast, shallow thrusts, the head of the penis (which is the most sensitive part) is constantly stimulated. The entrance to the vagina is sometimes the tightest part, and if all you do is attack this area, you’re missing out. That often leads to overstimulation and premature ejaculation.
One of the ways to combat this is to thrust your penis deeply and to keep the head of the penis inside of her. That way the head is not stimulated and that alone can buy you at least 5-10 more minutes.
If you feel that you are near an ejaculation, just thrust your penis deep inside of her and then start grinding your pelvis against hers. This will lower the stimulation of your penis, but at the same time, your pelvis will grind against her clitoris, which will be immensely pleasurable for her.
Believe it or not, women do not need constant thrusting as men do. This is due to the anatomy of the genitalia in men and women.
Men’s penises are just sticks wrapped in skin. We receive pleasure by rubbing something (hand, lips, vagina) against it.
Women’s vaginas do react the same way, but they have two other pleasure pathways men do not have. First is the clitoris. As you know from learning how to finger a girl, you can pleasure your woman without even entering her.
The second pleasure pathway is through the enlargement of the vagina. You see, there are muscles around the vagina that keep it tight. When these are pushed up against, women receive massive amounts of pleasure, so you can make her moan without even thrusting.
Combine these two and you can see how you can make a woman orgasm without even thrusting. Push your penis all the way into her vagina, stretching it out, and rub her clit until she comes. Don’t worry, she’ll forget all about the thrusting as soon as you starting doing this.
I mentioned another technique earlier in this article, but it bears repeating – if you feel you’re near an orgasm, slow down. The change in the tempo will provide you with the necessary break you need in order to keep going.
Best Thrusting Positions
The best positions for trying out different thrusting techniques are generally the ones where you have the most control. This is because your woman doesn’t really know how you’re feeling, so she’ll just do whatever makes her feel good in that moment. She could do something that feels terrible for you and even be suboptimal for her too.
It is difficult to try out new things when she is riding you, and you have limited options for thrusting. She’s the primary mover, and there’s not much you can do lying on the bed.
On the other hand, positions like missionary and doggy style are great because you have much more control over everything. You’re the primary actor, and she’s staying stationary, so you can do whatever you want.
Despite this, you can still turn the girl on top into a position where you control the movement. Cowgirl doesn’t have to be the variation you use, where she sits up and rides you like a horse.
If you want to have control over her while she’s on top, do this. Grab her by the neck and push her head next to hers. This will make her body in line with yours. She won’t be able to bounce up and down, but you will be able to thrust into her.
Bend your knees so she’s lifted up, and start going to town. This angle will not only stimulate her clit with your body, it’ll also create deep penetration from how close your bodies are.
As always, try to mix and match and find out what positions work best for you. The #1 tip I can give you is to experiment.
Every couple is different. Penises and vaginas come in all different shapes and sizes, and everyone’s body works best in different positions. You wouldn’t suggest the same positions for a 6’7” basketball player as you would for a midget.
Keep trying out positions and thrusting styles, keep trying new things, and you’ll find success. If you continue to push the envelope and leave your comfort zone, I’m certain you’ll be having mind-blowing sex in no time.
P.S. Thrusting techniques are what it takes to deliver electrifying orgasms up and down your woman’s spine, but they’re only useful if you’ve got the stamina to take her down the path to pleasure.
Studies have shown that the average duration of sex is between measly 7 to 13 minutes, but also, that most women require at least 15 minutes of penetration to orgasm.
It doesn’t matter how you thrust if you only get a few strokes before you bust.
If you’re reading this article, you’ve learned what it takes to become a sex god, now all you have to do is take the tools I’ve given you, and apply them.
The best way, hands down, to rock her world is to last longer in bed. No matter what techniques you use, if you can’t control your orgasm, you’re facing an uphill battle to keep your woman satisfied in bed.
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