Have you always wanted to know how to make your partner moan with pleasure? Suck her clit!
It’s one of the most successful techniques for great sex. But it can be daunting for many people who don’t know what they’re doing.
The clit is sensitive and requires different levels of intensity. The key is finding what your partner enjoys and then being able to deliver it better each time. This also means experimenting with different techniques until you learn which ones get her going.
Whether you’re inexperienced in making her quiver or want a refresher, we’ve got you covered.
Here are some essential tips to help you master the art of sucking clit and driving her wild with pleasure.
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Where Is Her Clitoris?
The clitoris is a small, sensitive organ located at the top of the vulva, just above the urethra and between the labia majora.
It is usually covered by a hood of skin and might be challenging to find without some exploration.
To locate her clitoris, gently part her outer lips with your fingers. You should be able to feel a small bump or ridge in the area, and that is the clit!
Some women have tiny, delicate clits, and others are larger.
You might also have to move her labia minora to find the clit and apply pressure.
Anatomy of the Clitoris
The size of the clit is deceiving, it’s much larger than it appears and has a large internal structure called the shaft.
The clitoris comprises the glans (the outer part) and the shaft (the internal part).
The glans, which are visible and sit right at the top of her vulva, are highly sensitive and respond well to different types of stimulation.
The shaft extends five inches into the body and can be felt through the skin and stimulated by applying pressure with your hands, fingers, or sex toy.
You cannot go wrong with stimulating both for maximum pleasure, and we will teach you how.
Why Sucking Her Clit Feels Good
Sucking her clit can be an incredibly pleasurable experience for both partners.
Her clitoris is packed with nerve endings, making it one of the most sensitive parts of a woman’s body. When stimulated correctly, women experience intense pleasure and even orgasmic sensations from these nerve endings firing.
Sucking on the clitoris can provide direct stimulation to these nerve endings, resulting in a heightened sensation that will eventually, if done correctly, lead to one or more orgasms.
Clit Sucking for Maximum Pleasure
Every woman gets off slightly differently. You might need to suck her clit, lick it, and finger her to help her orgasm.
Great sex comes from a fair bit of trial and error, so don’t be afraid to utilize most or even all of these techniques.
Get It Wet
This is essential to sucking clit!
You want her clitoris to be super wet while you suck and lick it. A dry clit causes too much friction and is not enjoyable at all. Think about it. Would you want your dick to be dry while someone plays with it? The answer is most likely nope!
A clit is much like the head of a penis and needs a lot of lubrication for maximum pleasure. Therefore, don’t be afraid to get a lot of saliva on her vulva and clitoris, and keep your mouth soaking wet while you suck and lick.
You should hydrate well before entering the bedroom because it will be a long time, and she will steal a lot of your mouth’s moisture.
Get the clit as wet as possible, and then suck it.
Wrap Your Lips Fully Around It
Get your entire mouth around her clitoris and suck on it. Don’t put one lip on it and expect to get her off. Instead, you should get every part of your lips involved in the action.
If her clit is small, don’t worry, it will get bigger. As women get more turned on, the clit will swell because it fills with blood, making it hypersensitive. A swollen clit is a good sign that she is interested in whatever you are doing and is getting closer to orgasm.
If her clit is not swollen, pull back a little. Spend more time kissing, caressing her entire body, dirty talking, or stimulating her body in other ways first. When she is wet, aroused, and the clit is large and in charge, you can start sucking on it.
Suck Softly
Start by sucking gently and softly before transitioning into something more forceful.
Wrap your lips fully around her clitoris, and create a soft to mild suction effect. You can do this by forcibly pulling air into your mouth and keeping your mouth slightly loose to lightly suck on her clit.
Do this for a few seconds and then release. Repeat multiple times. If she is not climaxing, move on to something stronger.
Suck Hard
Make your lips like a vacuum and forcibly pull a lot of air into your mouth, creating a strong suction. Suck on her clitoris deeply and forcibly.
Your mouth might ache, and you should feel the muscles in your face tightening.
Your mouth might get tired, and that’s a good sign that you create a strong enough vacuum effect to get most women close to climax.
Suck on her clit like this for a few seconds and then release. Rest your jaw. Repeat.
Of course, there is a chance that she will not enjoy a strong vacuum effect. Instead, you might have to suck more gently.
Lick and Suck
Lick and suck the clitoris with your tongue. You can use a flat, broad tongue to cover more surface area or a pointed tongue for more pinpoint stimulation.
We wrote a comprehensive guide on how to eat pussy here, where we demonstrate how you can stimulate a woman’s most sensitive region with your tongue. We suggest bookmarking that one later to learn how to utilize your tongue in the bedroom better.
Nibble and Suck
In between sucking, nibble on her clit slightly with your teeth. Only some women will enjoy this technique; prior discussion is needed before trying. Some clits are far too sensitive for teeth.
But if she can handle it, suck as hard as you can on her clitoris, hold for a few seconds, release, lick gently, and then lightly nibble.
Tease and Suck
Use your fingers to insert one inside her vagina and slowly explore the walls of it while you lick and suck. This technique will drive her insane.
And if she’s up for it, insert another finger into her ass. There should be one inside her vagina and another inside her ass and slowly move both simultaneously while you suck and lick her clitoris.
The Recommended Combination
Start by getting her wet and ready with foreplay. When she’s ready, remove her clothing and explore her body with your hands before going south.
Start by licking her entire vulva without focusing on the clitoris. Be slow and gentle. Trace your tongue around her labia minora (small lips). Lick her clitoris using a fully flat tongue and then use just the tip to lick the clit in an up-and-down motion.
Pay attention to her reaction.
Then, after licking for a bit, move on to sucking. Slowly wrap your lips around her clit and gently suck. Rest. Repeat. Then increase the speed and intensity if she responds well. Keep it up! Your mouth might be hurting at this point.
While sucking, insert a finger near her vaginal opening. Trace it in a circular motion but don’t put it in yet. Allow it to just sit at the entrance, not going in. Let her pull you inside and explore her vagina, not thrust in and out of it with your finger.
If she can handle it, put a second finger insider her ass. She should be so wet that her natural lubrication is dripping down to her anus, so all you have to do is use it to moisten your finger and slowly put it inside. Explore both her vagina and anus while sucking and licking.
How to Stimulate Her Clit in Multiple Ways
You might be a great clit sucker. But chances are she will not orgasm from sucking alone. You might also need to try and experiment with a few of these tried and true techniques.
Use Your Fingers
Gently massage and stroke the clitoris and vulva with your fingertips. You can use circular motions, up-and-down strokes, or side-to-side strokes. Stroke, rub, and press down on her clit.
There are numerous methods to make a girl cum with your fingers, and luckily, we can show you how here.
It’s a secret technique certified to make her cum not once but multiple times in one night.
Use Your Penis
We call this one the slide and grind. Pause using your mouth to slide your penis across her clitoris in an up-and-down motion. Do not insert it inside; allow it to slide back and forward against her entire vulva and clitoris. Do this a few times and watch how she reacts. Many women love this motion, and so many enjoy being on top. It allows them to slide and grind their body against their male partner.
Insert your penis insider her and have passionate sex, but don’t cum just yet. Pull out before you get too close and go back to giving her oral sex using the methods above.
Try a Sex Toy
If you’re looking for something extra, try using a vibrator or sex toy designed for clitoral stimulation.
We recommend the Hitachi wand. It’s an all-purpose vulva and body massager that vibrates at different speeds and rhythms. For this reason, it’s a top choice in the bedroom.
There are many different brands of Hitachi wands, and most of them function the same. The more expensive ones have a few more vibration patterns, but if she is a beginner, you can first start with a more basic Hitachi wand with 2-5 vibration settings. Upgrade for Christmas after she has had some time to fall in love with her first Hitachi wand.
The second option we recommend is the standard vibrator. These little guys are travel-friendly, as you can find miniature ones and ones shaped like lipsticks for extra discretion (also very cool).
It’s not as intense as the Hitachi wand and might be a better choice for a woman that has a hyper-sensitive clitoris or has never experimented with sex toys before.
Because there are so many standard vibrators, we recommend going with the most simple yet reliable and highly rated one you can find in your favorite sex shop.
Then there is this — a rose.
It is a rose-shaped vibrator that sucks her clit, vibrates it, and more. It is also cute and fashionable, making it an excellent choice for a woman who enjoys novelty with a bit of intricacy. Give this one a try.
You can also try a standard clit sucker. A clit sucker is a dedicated sex toy solely for sucking on clits! You can give your mouth a break from time to time and use this guy instead in the bedroom.
Use the Shower Head
The shower head is a girl’s best-kept secret. If you grew up with sisters and they all took an ungodly amount of time in the shower, this is probably why. This or they were washing their hair and admiring themselves in the mirror for a bit.
The shower head can do a lot more than clean your body. As the water can be changed to spray at high speeds, low speeds, one stream, or multiple streams, it is a fun little item to have in your shower.
She probably already knows how to do it! But if she does not, pull the shower head from its holder in the shower next time you’re in the bathroom together and point it at her vulva. Watch her reaction. It will probably be a mix of surprise (not many men know this one) and enjoyment because it is quite a playful, kinky, and fun thing to do in the shower together.
Techniques for Sucking Clits
Once you’ve located her clitoris, it’s time to get to work! Here are some techniques that will help you give her the most pleasure possible:
Communicate
Talking about oral sex can be intimidating, but it is critical to ensure both partners are comfortable with the activity before engaging in it.
Not every woman is comfortable with oral sex, which should not be the case, but unfortunately, it is. Have a quick chat with your partner about if she enjoys oral sex and would want you to go down on her.
It might be that she loves oral, but “not tonight.”
“Not tonight” means that she’s about to start her period, is on it, or just recently finished it. Or perhaps, she is not feeling her sexiest at that particular moment and would enjoy a cuddle or even a quickie over a long, passionate, oral sex session.
You don’t want to waste her time or yours, so figure out what works for you first (yes, that means prioritizing talking over sex), and then move on to the sexy stuff.
Talk about any boundaries or limits that you both want to set. Is she okay with the lights on, or prefers a dim lamp? Will she enjoy a little biting, or does she wants to stick to straight licking and sucking — nothing more?
How were her past oral sex experiences?
All these things you should know before going on exploration between her thighs.
Start Slow and Gentle
Use your tongue to tease and lick before sucking. Trace the tip of your tongue in circles around her clitoris. This will help stimulate blood flow and increase sensitivity.
Then, when she’s ready…
Apply more pressure with your mouth, and suck and lick faster and more intensively.
Allow the sexual tension and excitement to build, which means being patient and going slowly for a few minutes before you can get to the fun stuff.
Give Feedback
By feedback, we mean reassurance that she is not the only one loving the experience. We mean loving, not liking the experience because that is how it should be.
If it’s so-so or “whatever,” then she is not enjoying you trying to get her off. You should try another technique from this list to get her purring like a well-fed kitten.
Grunt, moan, tell her, “You’re so hot!” or “I love your taste!” Be very vocal about how hot she is and how good she smells.
The vagina can be a sensitive topic for some women. Many are uncomfortable with oral sex because of misguided beliefs that their bodies look funny, smell odd, or a combination of both.
When you reassure her that everything is good for you, she can relax, unclench those thighs, and give into the moment.
Trust us! She will not enjoy the experience when you are dead silent and seem like you are doing it out of obligation or to get her to return the favor.
Use Your Fingers
Sucking clits is fantastic! But you know what is even better? Sucking and fingering!
When your mouth is wrapped around her clitoris and sucking on it like a fresh cherry pop, slide a finger into her vagina and tease the opening for a bit, when she’s moaning and really going, slide your finger deeper inside.
Do not jerk your finger in and out! Believe us or not, it does not feel good, and your finger is not a tiny dick and cannot be used in the same thrusting in and out motion.
Instead, allow your finger or fingers to explore, rubbing in circular motions. If you can find her G Spot, which is real, that is even better. Gently, at first, pull on it and stimulate it while you suck. This technique will drive her insane!
Or, if she is into it, slide a finger into her ass and play with that while you suck.
Find a way to keep your hands busy, and never rely solely on your tongue and lips to make her orgasm.
Alternate Between Sucking and Licking
Try alternating between gentle sucking and licking to keep her on her toes! Or rather, sucking 100% of the time does not feel the best. For a while, it is great, but she will get bored of it, especially if that is not what makes her cum.
Instead of spending all of your time-sucking, lick her clit and vulva too. We have a detailed guide for eating pussy here, so check that out if you want to learn more about pleasuring a woman with your mouth.
Experiment With Different Techniques
Use your tongue to flick, swirl, and tease her clitoris. You can also try using your breath or a vibrator to add even more stimulation.
The idea is to try multiple techniques, sex toys, and movements to find the one or multiple actions that bring her to orgasm the fastest.
You might even have to get a little creative! By creative, we mean kinky. She might enjoy being choked a little while you suck on the clit, spanked, tied up, pinned down, slapped, or any number of things to orgasm while you suck her clit.
Don't Just Suck the Clit
They forget that the entire vulva is sensitive and responds well to stimulation. Use your tongue to explore different areas around her clitoris, such as the labia, her perineum (the small space between her vagina and ass), or her anus.
Pay Attention to Her Body Language
Her reactions will tell you what she likes and doesn’t like. If she seems to enjoy something, keep doing it and try to keep the technique the same.
Women need consistent movements to cum, so once you identify her Kryptonite, don’t stop until she cums and cums multiple times.
Doing this might take some time, and a lot of men become very impatient and want to rush to the finish line (make her cum) or rush to get her to return the favor, regardless of if she climaxes or not.
You might have to suck, lick, and finger for several minutes before she climaxes, which is typical for most women. The average time to orgasm is twenty minutes (Yes, 20 minutes!) Of course, you should have adequately warmed her up with foreplay before diving between her legs and not need to suck for twenty minutes.
It's Not Quid Pro Quo
When you finish sucking her clit, do not expect a blowjob in return. It will be great if she shows you how much she appreciates the excellent job you did between her thighs, but if she wants to lay back on the bed, cuddle, and kiss, do not be offended or disappointed.
Giving a woman oral sex is not a quid pro quo interaction, where she gets something only if you can get something afterward.
Safety Tips for Sucking Clits
Ideally, you should suck the clit of a woman you trust, but random meetups do occur from time to time. Occasionally, you might want to be safer than other times with the woman.
Make her and your safety a priority. Here are some tips to keep in mind when it comes to sucking clits:
- Use a dental dam to protect against STDs. Dental dams were intended for the dentist's office, hence the name. However, they have found new life outside of the dentist's office and in the bedroom of couples around the globe as a barrier between skin and mouth. The sensation is slightly different than without one, but it can still be pleasurable.
- In general, it is best not to insert your fingers inside a woman if they are covered with dirt or other debris from the day. She does not want that inside her body, and you don't want to taste that when you go down on her. Wash your hands before oral sex if you need to, and afterward, if things get a little messy or you put one finger inside her ass while you suck her clit.
- Keep your mouth clean. Fungal infections such as thrush (the mouth's version of a vaginal yeast infection) occur from time to time. You do not want to put your partner at risk by introducing harmful fungus, bacteria, and viruses from your mouth to her sensitive clitoris and vaginal area. If your throat is sore and you suspect a cold or infection, skip sucking clits.
- Do not bite too hard if she likes a little nibbling. The clitoris is the female version of the head of the penis, and you would not want a woman to bite down hard on your penis! Likewise, she does not want your teeth to puncture her delicate skin. Nibble with caution.
- If your partner experiences pain or discomfort, stop immediately and ask her what she needs.
Aftercare Tips for Sucking Clits
Aftercare is essential to any sexual activity and imperative for oral sex. Here are some tips to keep in mind after you’ve finished sucking clits:
- Take a few moments to cuddle and talk with your partner about the experience.
- Make sure you and her feel comfortable and safe.
- Offer your partner a glass of water or a snack to help them rehydrate and replenish their energy.
- Talk about any boundaries crossed and how you can work together to ensure it doesn't happen again.
Following these aftercare tips ensures that you and her feel safe and respected after oral sex.
Conclusion
Sucking clits can be an incredibly pleasurable experience for both partners.
You can become an expert at pleasuring your partner with your mouth with practice and patience. Remember to get it wet with your tongue, pay attention to her reactions, and experiment with different techniques.
With a bit of practice, she will be moaning in absolute ecstasy in no time.
