There are few hobbies a man can have that are as pleasurable as masturbation.
And while the good old fashioned way of doing it – a quick three-minute session while watching porn – is good, it’s important to add some variety to your masturbation sessions and try other masturbation techniques.
Keep in mind that there are many masturbation techniques for men, these are just the best ones.
First, let’s talk about the right setup for a perfect (or close to perfect) masturbation session.
This may sound obvious, but you should choose a quiet location where you won’t be disturbed. The last thing you want to worry about while you are bringing yourself to ecstasy is someone barging in and messing up your whole experience.
Set aside at least half an hour for the session. While you can have a good time with only a few minutes to spare, the REAL pleasure lies past the 5-minute mark. While you may finish earlier, it’s good to set a chunk of time aside to experiment and find out what gives you the maximum amount of pleasure.
Next (and this will surprise most of you) DO NOT watch porn. Strange advice coming from an ex-porn star, but trust me, porn is engineered to make you addicted to it. It is also causing millions of men around the world all kinds of problems, from erectile dysfunction to premature ejaculation. The best thing you can do for your sex life is to cut out porn completely.
“What? But how am I supposed to get aroused?” will probably be your first thought after reading the previous paragraph. The answer is you do it as they did in medieval times (you know, before the Internet) – with your imagination.
With just your thoughts, hands, and some lubricant you can have the most incredible sexual experience of your life – if you know what you’re doing, that is.
But enough teasing, let’s dive right into the best masturbation techniques for men:
1. Just the Tip
Grab your lubricant and lubricate your thumb, index finger, and middle finger.
Now use those three fingers to touch lightly just the head of the penis. How much pressure you apply will depend on how sensitive you are, so experiment with lighter/stronger touch and with speed – slower/faster stroking.
The head of the penis has an enormous amount of nerve endings, so this will be quite a pleasurable experience for you.
2. Edging: A Marathon, Not A Sprint
Edging is not only one of the most fun masturbation techniques there is, but it is also one of the best ways to cure premature ejaculation.
It works like this: You masturbate as you would normally do; you just do it for half an hour without ejaculating. You change the tempo as you go from one arousal level to another, but don’t finish until the time is up (set a timer for 30 minutes and have fun.)
How does this help with premature ejaculation? If you think about it, masturbation can be seen as training for sex.
If you have a quickie 5-minute session and then ejaculate, you’re subconsciously sending a signal to yourself that this kind of behavior is desirable, and that you should also do it in the bedroom with your girlfriend.
On the other hand, if you train yourself to last 30 minutes when you’re alone, you will more likely than not have the same experience when having sex. You can learn more about edging here.
3. Mix Cold With Heat
Before beginning with masturbation, have a bowl of ice next to you. Then, when you are feeling ready to finish, grab the ice in your other hand. The heat from your penis combined with the cold from the ice will give you an experience you will remember for a long time.
4. Change Positions
Most men masturbate in the same position every time.
If you usually masturbate lying down, stand up. If you do it while sitting in the chair, try kneeling on your bed. There are a lot of positions you can masturbate in, and while some of them will feel ridiculous, and you will never repeat them, you never know in which position you might experience the ultimate pleasure.
5. Don’t Forget the Balls
It is strange that men will do every masturbation trick to squeeze an additional ounce of pleasure from their penis, but completely ignore their balls.
That’s not a wise move, considering that there are as many nerve endings in the testicles as there are in the penis. Next time you’re close to ejaculation, try pulling down on your testicles in a specific rhythm, and see what that does for you.
6. Don’t Be A Stranger
Now we’re going to start getting into the strange techniques. If you like vanilla sex, stop here, but if you’re reading to spice up your sex life, keep reading.
I got this technique from a friend who does this all the time. It’s called “the stranger.” What you do is try to make masturbation feel like someone else is jerking you off.
There are two ways to do this. The first is to sit on your hand for 10-15 minutes or until your hand falls asleep. Then, you jack off like normal. However, since your hand is asleep, it feels like someone else is doing it.
You remove the sensation from your hand, so the only skin that feels friction is your penis. The other way to do this is to put on a latex glove.
Go to the pharmacy and buy one of those blue medical gloves they sell for nurses to clean up wounds. Place the glove on your masturbation hand, apply lubrication to it, and go to town.
This removes all sensation from your hand, like the first technique does, but it’s much easier. You don’t have to sit and wait for your hand to fall asleep, you just put on a glove.
7. Find Mutual Friends
Next, we’ll talk about mutual masturbation. This is the practice of masturbating with your significant other. You jack off while she fingers herself.
To do this, get in bed, or on the floor, or on the couch, wherever you can both masturbate in peace. Then, each of you begins your masturbation sessions at the same time, without touching each other. Don’t put on any porn. The only images that will be turning each other on are looking at each other.
If your girlfriend or wife doesn’t masturbate, let this be a time for her to experiment on herself. Let her know that this is a no-pressure situation and that no matter what she does, you’ll enjoy looking at her beautiful naked body no matter what.
Use this as a time to create sexual chemistry between the two of you. Tell her everything you find sexy about her, from her breasts to her smile, but keep your distance. The sexual tension will rise, and create an amazing masturbation experience. Whenever I do this, I end up skipping the masturbation and going straight to wild sex…but that’s up to you.
8. Long Distance Fun
Much like mutual masturbation, practice mutual masturbation over the internet. This is great for when you’re traveling or away from your woman for a long time. Get on Skype, Zoom, Facetime, or any video messenger.
Start with your clothes on, and slowly undress yourself and your woman with words. Make sure no one’s going to interrupt you, and that you can enjoy the experience completely. Get a good pair of headphones so you can really listen your woman’s moans.
Tell your woman how much you miss her, how badly you want her body, and all the dirty things you’re going to do to her once you’re together again. This is a great experience that will make you two feel connected no matter where you are.
You can even be a little more perverted…and record the video using screen capture software. Then, you’ll always have high-quality porn featuring your sexy girlfriend or wife. (Make sure you tell her that you’re doing this, wink wink).
9. Get An Oil Change
Most guys get into the same routine with masturbation. They do it in the same place, at the same time, with the same lube. To break the monotony, change what lube you use. Here are a few suggestions.
Coconut oil – this stuff is great, totally organic, and will leave your penis smooth and moisturized. It’s also AMAZING for sex, so keep it around, but be warned that it will melt condoms. Coconut oil is my lube of choice for masturbation and sex. Try it once and you’ll agree.
Vaseline – hard to clean up, and will stay on you a long time, this stuff is a thick but pleasurable lubricant.
Sex lubes – surprisingly, most guys don’t buy lube, and just use hand lotion. Go to the pharmacy and pick up some sex lubricants, they work wonders. I prefer water-based for ease of cleanup. Astroglide makes a water-based gel that is easy to put on and even easier to take off. There are some more extreme lubricants you can use, which we’ll cover next…
10. Make It Minty
I got this idea a long time ago when I was hooking up with this girl. She had some anxiety issues and as a result, ALWAYS chewed gum. She usually took it out before we started anything sexual, but one day she decided to put a brand new piece of peppermint gum in her mouth right before giving me a blowjob.
I was concerned it’d interfere with the act, and that it’d fall out or get in her hair or something, but WOW it was amazing. It felt like every inch of my cock was tingling, thanks to the minty goodness of the gum.
You can recreate this technique by using menthol based creams during your masturbation. This includes Tiger Balm or Vicks VapoRub.
WARNING: do not use a handful of menthol cream. Take a little bit and mix it with your lubricant or moisturizing. Too much will burn and will stay on your penis for hours. This is not for the faint of heart, try at your own risk.
12. Get Wet
To tone it down a little bit, here’s a technique most guys use frequently. Using shampoo or conditioner, masturbate in the shower. I love doing it. There’s nothing like turning the hot water up, relaxing, and making yourself orgasm at the same time. On top of that, cleanup is easy. You shoot your load down the drain, rinse off, and move on with your life. If you haven’t done this, try it. It’s pretty straightforward but definitely enjoyable.
12. Make Love To Yourself
You know when you’re with a girl for a long time, and you have that passionate Valentine’s Day or anniversary sex?
You know, when you dim the lights, strike up some candles, turn on the R&B, burn some incense, and make sweet love to each other. I want you to recreate this with yourself.
Treat your next masturbation session like a special occasion, and do everything you’d do for your girlfriend or wife, but for you. This works even if you don’t have a significant other.
I like to take a nice hot shower to get myself relaxed, sprawl out on the bed, play some relaxing music, and take some serious “me time.”
I masturbate slowly but deliberately, almost like edging, and try to extend the orgasm as long as possible. When it finally happens, it’s mind-blowing and makes me very appreciative of myself.
13. Cup o’ Coffee
Simple technique, but some guys have never done this. Masturbate first thing in the morning, before you even get out of bed.
The excitement from masturbating will help you begin your day on the right foot. This is even more enjoyable if you wake up with morning wood since you’re already horny and ready to go.
If you know you’re going to have sex later in the day, I don’t recommend masturbating in the morning. But, if you know you can get it up anyway, go ahead and have fun.
14. One Player Role Play
The last technique we’ll cover is what I call single-player role play.
This is where you put yourself in the shoes of a porn star and act out the movie. I did this when I was just a rookie in the porn industry and wanted to learn all the right moves.
To do this, make sure you have a full-length porn movie queued up. It has to be the entire movie or you won’t get the same experience. Before you start, make sure you have all your masturbating paraphernalia ready. Lotion, lube, towels, tissues, whatever you need.
To begin, make sure you have all your clothes on, and start the movie. Remember, you’re going to do EVERYTHING the guy in the movie does, including clothes. Keep your clothes on until the porn star starts to take his off. If you want to do this 100% right, act out the beginning scene. You know, where the plumber comes in and fixes the leak before getting paid in sex.
Stand up and act out exactly what the guy is doing. Once the foreplay begins, continue to do whatever the pornstar is doing. When he takes his clothes off, you do the same. When he starts to get a blowjob, stroke your penis like you’re getting a blowjob. If he stands up to have sex, stand up. If he’s doing doggy style, imitate him as well.
To make this even more engaging, make sure that you don’t orgasm until the pornstar does. This might be a challenge, considering porn movies are 20-30 minutes, but it’ll pay off in the end.
The orgasm you’ll have as the pornstar unloads a huge money shot will be well worth the wait. If you can’t get through the entire porn movie without cumming, I bet your performance in bed is short, too. In my experience, the main factor that determines women’s sexual satisfaction with sex is the duration of penetration (the runner-up is the number of orgasms during sex).
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