Do you think you have a big dick?
Most guys believe one of two things:
- “Yeah man, I have a HUGE cock!”
- “No, my penis is tiny.”
Well, what do the numbers say, and what can statistics tell us about sexual satisfaction?
You might be surprised when you find out what women really want.
Let’s start by answering the question, “Is Six Inches Small?”
Numbers Don’t Lie
To start, let’s discuss the stats.
At the time of writing, the average penis length is somewhere between 5.1 to 5.5 inches (while erect), and the average girth (circumference) is roughly 3.6 inches. This comes from worldwide studies, not my own imagination or anything of the kind.
If your member is six inches long, you might think you’re doing pretty well since you’re “above average,” right? Well, let me introduce you to the vagina…
Vagina size varies just as much as penis size.
According to research, the average vaginal length is between 3 and 4 inches. The problem with vaginal measurements is that, just like the penis, the vagina expands when aroused, up to 200%. Based on those numbers, the average aroused vagina measures in at 6-8 inches.
What does that mean for men? That means that if you want to really please the average woman, your dick should be at least six inches.
“Mike, do I really need my penis to be as long as her vagina?” Yes, and the reason why has to do with her orgasm. See, there are actually five types of female orgasms, and once you understand them, it’s clear for you to see why you need a bigger cock.
Now that we know the numbers, let’s get back to the age-old question…
What Do Women Want?
We know that an average erect penis is about five inches, but is that enough?
To answer that, you have to understand how the nerves in a vagina work. See, vaginas and penises are very different (obviously).
Men get pleasure by rubbing the nerves on the outside of the penis against something else.
Women have the same pleasure pathway but in reverse. Their vaginas are lined with millions of nerves, that when rubbed against, send pleasure signals to the brain.
It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to calculate that the more surface area you touch…the more nerves you’ll interact with…the more pleasure you’ll bring to your partner.
Therefore having a 5” penis might be “average,” but it won’t work optimally. At least not all the time.
Looks Are Important. Or Are They?
You can approach this subject from another point of view. A 6 inch penis in length even when erect is average, but something like 5 inches may be off-putting for some women, especially if they had multiple partners in the past. At the same time, for someone with very little experience, 6 or even 5 inches may seem like a large penis.
But what about the looks? It is no secret that some women prefer taller guys or guys who have broad shoulders and bigger muscles. So it is natural that someone with an above-average penis size would seem more attractive.
Besides, there are plenty of females who like skinny or short guys. A different taste in men’s outside looks may translate to a woman’s preference in penis size, so you should not write yourself off just because you have an average or below average dick.
The Myth Of Ideal Penis
Like already mentioned, given how different people have different preferences, do not get caught up in the idea that you should strive for an ideal penis size when such a thing does not exist.
Being hung like a horse may seem awesome on the surface, but do not be fooled. Your sexual partners may find discomfort if the penis length or girth is too much for them to handle during the penetration.
If that happens, you can say goodbye to enjoying multiple sex sessions with an attractive girl who cannot handle someone who is too big.
One Night Stands
One night stands are a good opportunity to find out where you stand in terms of the penis length. The more women you sleep with, the more you will know how to feel about having 6 inches.
Given how common 6 inch penises are and how they resemble the average, expecting to rock your partner’s world is probably a far-fetched idea.
On the other hand, if women find an average penis length to be more comfortable than dealing with a large dick that ends up “bottoming out in their vagina,” then perhaps you should be satisfied with your size?
Being in the world of average penis size is something that you should embrace. Nevertheless, it is easier said than done. Most guys will still find something to complain about even if they have an average penis.
And do you know what this comes down to? As harsh as it is, at least 30% of men are unsatisfied with their size because of personal complexes and perception.
Most guys who think that they have a small penis actually do not. It is something out of the realm of impossibilities, but if you were to line up every guy on the planet naked and checked their dick size, you would probably realize that 6 inches are plenty.
Instead of thinking clearly, men look for some ridiculous methods to lengthen their dicks. Be it something like penis enlargement surgery or even products like pills, lotions, or pumps.
Marrying The Guy
Want another interesting fact about how a large penis may not be all that great? Well, then how about this study in Plos One published in 2014? According to the research, women were more likely to cheat on their partners or leave them for other men because the penis size of their current partners was too big.
It seems that these women could not stand the pain that they felt during intercourse, not the pleasure.
HelloClue has also published a research in which they asked 64 thousand women (the number is quite large, and should give a good perspective on what the situation is really like) about what they are looking for in an ideal partner.
It just so happens that monster schlongs are not among the most popular answers. In fact, penis sizes were not mentioned all that much in the first place. Less than 1% were bothered with small penis size. Out of 64 thousand respondents, 1% seems kind of promising, right?
An average penis was mentioned in 8% of answers, and a large penis – in 3% of instances. The question of why responses were like this is not that hard to answer either.
Women perceive men with larger dicks as someone who will not try as much, whereas those with smaller or even average sizes will try to make up and put in more effort. Oh, and let us not forget the discomfort that women feel during penetration, though that has been pointed out in this article before.
The bottom line is that if you are looking to get into a serious relationship with, perhaps the intent to marry, you can expect to be perfectly fine even with those 6 inches of yours.
It’s How You Use It Really
At the end of the day, it is how you use your penis. It really is. Some would argue that being average puts you in an ideal spot because you do not have to worry about making the most out of your lack of size or avoiding sex positions that may hurt your partner.
Be it doggy, missionary, standing, sitting, cowgirl, 69, or anything else, you are more or less clear from facing potential trouble and messing up.
The goal is to help you make your partner orgasm more. Specifically, you’ll make her climax through the G-Spot and Deep Spot (learn the difference here).
Both of these are possible with a smaller penis, even if the odds are lower. It will take practice, but you can become someone who can satisfy most women that you sleep with.
With all that said, you may still not be unhappy and would love to change your size.
Crashing The Party
Working in the porn industry, I hung out with a lot of “well endowed” men. Like women do, we talked about our sex lives in explicit detail.
Talking with my other male pornstar friends, we all had the same issue: some women couldn’t handle our members. The porn actresses are completely used to it, but for normal girls, it could be too much.
Personally, I’ve had plenty of encounters, on and off-screen, where I can’t go completely balls deep at the risk of my partner.
I didn’t think this was possible until I started growing my dick. That’s when I found it’s possible to go so deep that you crash against a girl’s cervix. I don’t know what it feels like, but I’ve heard that it feels like getting kicked in the nuts.
Now imagine if you get kicked in the nuts while having sex. Not fun!
This is why I think it’s important to have realistic expectations. Porn, as much as it’s benefitted me, has had some negative consequences. Now everyone in the world wants a 20-inch python in their pants that can shoot gallon-sized loads.
Spoiler alert, a lot of the MONSTER cocks you see in porn (12 inches and longer) are fake. You can buy dildos online that you put on your penis to have sex with.
The rest of the guys are genetic freaks, born with God-given length (and enhanced with practice). No one goes from six inches to twelve inches without surgery.
However, you can definitely grow your penis, just don’t expect 8 inches of growth.
The Long And Short Of It
So, what exactly is the ideal penis length?
Well, based on the numbers, let’s put it like this.
The average vagina is 6 inches long. You should be able to go balls deep in the average girl, and more. Let’s say you want to go balls deep in most girls, that would mean your dick should be 7 inches long.
You might say, “well why don’t I just grow my dick 4 inches?”
Slow down, it’s not so easy.
Believe me, I worked in porn, where men’s paychecks were dependent on their cock size (and how long they could last).
My co-workers did everything they could to grow their penises, and none of them were able to grow 4 inches.
Realistic growth, using all the tricks and tools in the world, will be two inches. 2 inches is a totally achievable goal, but only if you do it right.
Some men go down the rabbit hole and hurt themselves, trying to stretch their dick out, using odd gadgets and doo-hickeys.
Don’t waste your time and money.
If you really want a bigger penis, you need to be patient.
If you rush and a bunch of stuff they promote online, you might even cause yourself some damage that WON’T be good for your friend down there.
I’m talking about pills, pumps, surgeries, etc…
This is not a joke when it comes to your penis.