Why should you learn how to last longer during a blowjob?
Well, consider this (no doubt familiar) situation:
You’re lying down on your bed, eyes closed, with your pants down while your girlfriend is giving you one of the best blowjobs in your life. Her head is rhythmically moving up and down while she’s sucking your dick like there is no tomorrow.
You are enjoying yourself – a little bit too much. It’s not your fault, her mouth is soaking wet, allowing your cock to slide into her mouth, all the way until her lips are on your shaft. After a few minutes of sexual pleasure, the all familiar feeling of ejaculation comes, and you’re done, without even getting to sex.
This situation is frustrating for so many reasons. On the one hand, you can’t control yourself, because the blowjob feels so damn good. On the other hand, you desperately wish you could last longer so that both she and you can enjoy sex free from your premature ejaculation.
To stop this, maybe you’ve tried some of the more creative tips found online. You know, such genius advice like watching TV during the act (because everyone wants to watch The Price is Right while getting head) or thinking about someone else (because there is nothing more fun than imagining a blowjob from a 350-pound woman).
Why even have sex if you’re not going to enjoy it to the fullest?
Sex is most enjoyable when you can savor every moment of the act. When you can let your orgasm slowly build as you take your woman on a roller coaster of pleasure until you finally decide to cum all over her.
Now, while we do go over how to last longer during a blow job in more detail in the Best She Ever Had online academy, I’m going to give you some tips here.
How Long Should A Blowjob Last?
First, let’s talk about how long should a bj last.
An average blowjob should last between 10-15 minutes. This is short enough so the girl’s neck and jaw don’t get cramped, but still long enough for you to fully enjoy all the pleasures of oral sex. Of course, it all depends on your lasting time, the girl, and the environment you are in – a BJ in an elevator is certainly going to be quicker than a BJ at your place where you can enjoy the sensation without anyone interrupting you and your female partner.
Let’s say you are aiming to last 15 minutes during your next blowjob. Great – you can use the following tips to achieve that goa
Best Position for a Blowjob
While there are a lot of positions you can get head in – lying down, sitting in a chair, 69 – they are not all created equal. The best positions for a blowjob are the ones that put you in control.
What is the best position to receive a blowjob
Standing up while getting sucked is one of the best ways to enjoy oral sex.
That way you can control her tempo and sucking speed.
So if your girl tries to go too fast, and you get close to ejaculating, you can just slow her down and direct her to other parts, such as balls, etc.
Don’t be afraid to direct her to lick your surrounding areas, either by telling her or gently pushing her head towards the desired licking spot. Balls, inner thighs, whatever rocks your boat. She can also alternate between kissing, licking, and sucking – this change in the rhythm will help you last longer.
It is best if you stand near a bed so she can be comfortable while she’s giving you a blowjob. She can’t exactly give you a blowjob out of this world if she is trying to ignore the pain in her knees from kneeling on a floor.
Much better that she sits or kneels on the soft, cushy bed so she can dedicate 100% of her attention to pleasing you.
Not only that, but you will have a much easier time convincing her to swallow if she is comfortable.
Change Her Technique
If you struggle to last long during a hummer, it could be coming from the technique she’s using. All girls suck dicks differently, and if you start paying attention, you’ll see that not all blowjobs are created equal.
There are countless ways to get your dick sucked. It’s not as simple as the penis going in and out of her mouth.
For me, I know one thing that drives me crazy, and that’s extended attention to the head. If a girl sucks my cock and spends a lot of time licking the head, I’ll come super fast. My head is so much more sensitive than the rest of my penis, I have to watch out for this.
If my wife is spending too much time licking and rubbing the head, I’ll tell her to stop doing that as much. I won’t tell her “stop that,” because I do like the technique, but I’ll kindly instruct her “not so much, I don’t want to cum early.” Women are understanding and will follow your instructions if you explain things clearly. After all, having good communication is one of the signs of a healthy relationship.
You can also control their technique by giving them positive feedback. When she’s using a technique you like, let out moans or tell her “that feels so good.” Do this when she uses techniques that let you last longer, and you’ll be able to last much longer while getting a blowjob.
Personally, I love it when my woman holds the shaft of my penis and then takes it as deep as she can. This feels so amazing, but at the same time, it doesn’t make me want to finish. So, I tell her to do this and provide positive feedback when she does.
You could also go down on your partner as a reward once she is finished, especially if she likes oral sex herself. By returning the favor, you can expect to receive even more sexual pleasure in the future and further strengthen the relationship between you and your wife or girlfriend.
Whatever technique you like, make sure you find out what it is and communicate it to your wife or girlfriend. She wants you to enjoy it just as much as you want to.
Pay Attention To Tension
Secondly, and this is crucial, try paying attention to your entire body while you’re receiving a BJ.
If you focus on your entire body, from head to toes instead of just your dick, you will realize that you are tense all over.
Pay special attention to muscle tension in your glutes and legs – those are muscles closely connected to ejaculation.
This tension is causing you to ejaculate prematurely.
This is true for regular, during the sex ejaculation too – so if you want to learn how to last longer in bed naturally, pay close attention.
Don’t try to check the body tension when you are close to an orgasm – you won’t have the time to stop yourself from ejaculating.
Instead, every few minutes check your body and try to gauge exactly how tense you are. Some tension is normal, but if it is over the top take a few deep breaths to relax.
Of course, your partner should pay attention as well. The girl is in charge of setting up the pace. She should start slowly with little pressure and increase the pace when you are ready to reach the climax.
Here’s a quick breathing tip you can use to lower the tension and thus last longer during a BJ – for every 2 normal breaths you take, take 3 deep ones. That way you can alternate between excitement and relaxation.
Relax Your Pelvic Floor
One of the main reasons why guys come early is because they have a tight pelvic floor. This muscle group includes all the muscles in your penis and ass. They control all the movement of blood, pee, semen, and of course, poop.
When these muscles are tight and brittle, they seize up and make you orgasm uncontrollably. If you want to master lasting longer, you must open up the pelvic floor.
There are two ways I want you to improve your muscles.
The first is to stretch throughout the day. There aren’t a million stretches I want you to perform, nor is there an intricate routine you have to follow. The stretch I want you to perform is the squat.
Get into the bottom of the squat, and relax.
That’s it. All you have to do is get into the squat position and let your hips stretch.
This might seem simple but is actually hard to do. Get up, and try it now. Most people can’t get into the bottom of the squat, like this baby, with their heels on the ground.
Practice this stretch until you can sit in it comfortably. Then, see how long you can see in this position. A good time is 60 seconds, but if you can’t last that long, keep practicing. Over time, you’ll get there.
The best thing about this stretch is you can do it anywhere and anytime. At the office, in the bathroom, at the gym, in your living room, wherever. It takes no equipment and can even be performed in pants.
Do this squat exercise and your pelvic floor will thank you.
Now that your pelvic floor is nice and loose from all the squatting you’re doing, it’s time to relax it during the blowjob itself. Many guys tense up during sexual activity, so it’s important to remind our bodies to relax and open up.
To do this, simply open stance. When you stand, your feet are probably a few inches together. Instead, move them apart until they’re feet away from each other.
Practice this stretch while you’re standing and imagine that a girl is on her knees sucking your penis.
You can also do this stretch while lying down and receiving oral. Simply make sure your woman is in between your legs, then stretch them out wide. This doesn’t work if you have a tiny bed, but hopefully, you have a nice King Sized bed you can stretch out on.
Your girl won’t even notice what’s going on. She’ll continue sucking as usual, but you’ll be enjoying it much more.
I know for a fact this works because I do it all the time. If my legs are together, I can feel the orgasm creep up on me, but if my legs are apart, I last so much longer.
My Favorite Number
If you’re still struggling to last longer during a blowjob, it’s time to break out the big guns and start get into position #69.
The 69 position is when you lie on your back and your woman performs oral sex on you…while you perform oral sex on her.
This position offers two big advantages to lasting longer.
The first is that you’re distracted. I know we talked about how paying attention to other things during sex is bad, but this is different. Instead of focusing on your 400-pound grandma, or how the Yankees are doing, you’re focusing on a real-life vagina!
There’s nothing wrong with being distracted by oral sex. In fact, it’s a good thing, because it means you really care about your partner’s pleasure.
The second reason why 69 is great for oral sex is that…she’s distracted! You’ll be going to town on your woman’s vagina, making her orgasm multiple times, driving her absolutely wild. When your woman is busy receiving oral from you, it’s harder for her to give you a mind-blowing blowjob.
Therefore, you’ll enjoy it a little less, but the overall experience will be much more enjoyable.
Other Tips and What If All Else Fails
Both you and your girl may find that doing the same thing over and over will get boring after a while. Sure, some guys will say that they would never get tired of getting head, but the reality is not always like that.
Introduce some changes in the intercourse to spice things up for the two of you. Like already mentioned, you can make sounds to show appreciation, but that is not all.
Some people say that there is nothing hotter than locking eyes while she is going down on you. Continuing eye contact all the time may be too difficult because of the pleasure you feel, but you should try it regardless. Eye contact also works when you want to show your appreciation as she can gauge your reaction and find out what moves work and what moves are not as effective.
While sex toys are not for everyone, but if you wish, you could explore your other erogenous zones while getting a blowjob and reach a different kind of orgasmic level.
Her mouth should be juicy enough to perform with the tongue, but adding in some lube in the mix could prove as a fun experience. Flavored lube makes oral sex delicious for your girl who will find even more pleasure while going down on you.
If all else fails, go ahead and cum during the blowjob.
(Only do this if you can get hard again and have another round of sex)
Cum in her mouth, or on her face, clean up, and keep going.
The trick here is what you do in between rounds. She might be disappointed that you came so quickly. She knows that means no sex and no orgasms for her, right?
Wrong!
The key to pleasing your woman in this technique is to keep going. Here’s exactly how I accomplish this….
I know how it goes, sometimes you just have to pop off during a blowjob. Maybe you haven’t seen your woman in a while and have a huge load ready to explode. Go ahead, and let it happen.
THEN – once you’re done cleaning up, immediately begin giving her oral sex. Don’t hesitate, don’t ask her what she wants to do, don’t waste a single second. Go straight for her lady parts and start going to town.
Perform oral on her until she orgasms, or at least for 10-15 minutes. After this, you should have an erection, so it’s time for sex.
She’ll be so wet and turned on from the cunningulus, that when you slide in, the sex will be absolutely earth-shattering!
Remember, only use this technique if you can go for two rounds. If you can’t get hard twice, make sure you check out this post.
Becoming an Oral Master
In conclusion, lasting longer during sex is crucial for becoming a better lover. Although men see it as the main act, it’s just a warmup to most women. Getting through the blowjob is just a step of foreplay to get you to the final act…sex.
Building your stamina during oral will translate over to real sex. Training your mind and body to last longer is independent of the sexual act or position, so improve at one, and you’ll improve at all of them.
Sexual stamina is a highly desired skill that takes years to master. Apply these tips, and you’ll be on your way to controlling your orgasm for good.
P.S. Let’s be honest.
I know you want to last longer during blowjobs.
You probably have trouble lasting longer during sex, too.
If I could help you put your worries to bed, once and for all, and give you the step-by-step system to controlling your orgasm, what would you say?
