Have you ever wanted to learn how to finger a girl so well that she can’t help but call out your name in absolute ecstasy and then beg for you to do it all over again?
Certain techniques can make all the difference between victory and defeat, or a face that says, “I’m bored!” and one that’s too busy screaming in pleasure.
We’ll take you through everything you need to know about fingering: preparation tips, techniques, and stimulating movements to introducing sex toys for enhanced pleasure. With these tried and tested methods at your disposal, your next intimate session promises to be mind-numbingly satisfying!
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Step 1: Start With Her Erogenous Zones
She should feel comfortable in order to enjoy the experience—this could include a stress-free environment or her physical positioning. Nobody wants to be in an awkward pose while they try to have a good time.
Now that she’s comfortable, consenting, and ready for a good time, start with her other erogenous zones, keeping your hands away from her legs for as long as possible.
By creating anticipation and sexual tension, there is a greater chance for an explosive climax. Target areas like the sensitive skin near her neck, breasts, inner thighs, lower abdomen, or any other erogenous zone. Use your fingers and entire hand to caress her body and explore her curves.
You can also build sexual tension with adequate foreplay. Foreplay is an important part of any sexual experience, and it’s especially important when it comes to fingering your girl. Whisper something into her ear or passionately kiss her, placing your hands on your partner’s body, such as the back of her head or neck. Use the other hand to trace a line from her shoulder down to her waist and then back up to her chest.
Depending on her state of undress, you might need to remove some clothing along the way. Rather than disrobing her quickly, remove just a shirt, then pants, then bra, and finally underwear. If she doesn’t want to be completely nude, take off just her outer clothing and then pull her underwear to the side.
Spend as much time as you can in this phase, as long as she’s into it. If she’s bored, move on to the next step.
Step 2: Get Comfortable… This Might Take A While
Her comfort was taken care of in the first step, but don’t forget your own. Ideally, you should position your body in a way that gives you as much access as possible to her vulva and vagina without straining yourself.
Once you’ve found a comfortable position, you’re ready for the best part!
Fingering a girl is not an easy skill to master. While it may not always lead to orgasm, technique, and patience could make all the difference.
Did you know that only 18% of women could orgasm from vaginal penetration, including fingering?
If you rush the process, your chances of success are dramatically decreased.
Step 3: Get Your Fingers Wet
Once you’re in a comfortable position, it’s time to get your fingers wet. Before you start fingering her, make sure your hands are clean and that your nails are trimmed.
Using lubrication is essential for a pleasurable experience because they reduce friction.
A good motto for life: You never go in dry!
You can use store-bought lubricants or natural lubricants like saliva, but saliva is not recommended as a first choice.
When deciding on lubrication, there are three main types to choose from: water-based, oil, and silicone, each with its own pros and cons. If you’re fingering a girl, water-based is the best option; however, silicone could work as well if you’re also not using any silicone sex toys.
The brand we recommend is J Lube, Swiss Navy or Pjur.
Step 4: Slide Your Hand Over Her Vulva
Start by lightly sliding your hand over her vulva without lingering on any particular area. Use the palm of your hand to caress her vulva in slow circles or up-and-down motions along the inner and outer labia.
Allow the other hand to rest on her pubic mound or explore a different erogenous zone.
After doing that for a bit, lightly trace your finger over her clitoris — the tiny button-like thing above the opening. The clit is covered by the clitoral hood, and some women prefer a single finger on it, rather than directly on the clitoris itself.
The clit contains more than 8,000 nerve endings and is the most sensitive part of her body. Touching her clit will build up more sexual tension.
Here’s how you touch the clit!
Depending on your partner’s body, different techniques might be more effective than others in providing pleasure. Vary the intensity and rhythm.
Never assume your current partner is the same as your previous one.
Step 5: Make Circular Motions on the Outside
Gently slide one or two fingers near her vaginal opening without going inside. Just trace a circle along the outside of her vagina, and repeat several times.
The vaginal opening is sensitive to touch, so spending a few seconds there will feel phenomenal and build up anticipation.
Step 6: Go Inside
Start by slowly inserting one finger at a time, using plenty of lubrication. You can also use two fingers if you prefer.
When you’re inside, explore different motions. Start slow, and then try different speeds and pressures to see what she likes best.
Pay attention to her body language and vocal cues. If she’s enjoying it, you’ll know it! She might moan, arch her back, or even grab your hand.
If she seems uncomfortable or unresponsive, slow down or stop and ask her what she wants.
Step 7: Find Her G Spot
The G-spot is located about two to three inches inside the vagina on the front wall. It’s a spongy area that feels slightly different from the rest of the vaginal walls. When stimulated, it can lead to intense pleasure and even orgasm.
G Spot orgasms are intense and can be incredibly pleasurable or lead to squirting!
To stimulate the G-spot, use your index and middle finger to make a “come here” motion. This means curling your fingers in a beckoning gesture and gently stroking the area.
Her anatomy might make it so you have to use a lot of pressure and intense stimulation to get a desirable response. Don’t be afraid to pull hard — Just check in to make sure you aren’t hurting your partner’s genitals.
Remember that communication is key; ask her what she likes.
When you find the spot, don’t change the rhythm. Women need consistency to reach orgasm, so keep up the same motion until she climaxes or tells you to move on.
Step 8: Get Creative
Oral sex can be incredibly pleasurable for both partners, so don’t forget to include it in your fingering session.
Start by lightly licking and kissing her inner thighs and the area around your partner’s vulva.
When you’re ready, use your tongue to trace circles around her clitoris and then move in for some light sucking. You can also use your tongue to flick back and forth over the clit or make figure-eight motions.
Again, pay attention to her body language and vocal cues.
She may prefer clitoral stimulation with the help of her favorite sex toy, so don’t be afraid to use a vibrator or wand for direct clitoral stimulation while fingering her with the other hand.
If she’s on her back, she can easily press the toy against her body to pleasure herself and let you focus solely on your hands.
Step 9: Make Her Orgasm
To make her orgasm, you’ll need to combine all the techniques you’ve learned. Start by lightly tracing your finger over her clitoris, then move on to making circles around the outside of her vagina. When she’s aroused enough, insert one or two fingers and explore different motions inside. Don’t forget to find her G-spot and use your mouth or sex toys for clitoral stimulation.
Once you’ve got the rhythm going, increase the intensity and speed until she reaches orgasm. Remember that every woman is different, and it might take some time to find out what works best for her.
If she doesn’t reach an orgasm, it doesn’t mean the sexual experience wasn’t enjoyable!
Step 10: Aftercare
The aftercare part might come long after fingering a girl because, likely, this is only the beginning of a long… and hot evening tonight.
Aftercare is an important part of any sexual experience. Take the time to cuddle, talk, and be with each other.
It’s also a good idea to ensure she feels comfortable and safe. Ask her if she needs anything, such as a glass of water or a warm blanket. Let her know that you care about her pleasure and are there for her.
The Dos and Don'ts
Don’t forget to do these things next time you’re pleasuring your girl with these fingering techniques.
Avoid these things when fingering your girl :
Fingering your girl can bring about a lot of sexual pleasure. With the right techniques and some patience, you can make her reach orgasm in no time. Start by engaging in foreplay, using lube, and going slow. Ask her what she likes and pay attention to her body language and vocal cues.
For further information and exploration into all the exciting activities one can do for their partner’s pleasure, check out our YouTube channel and read the accompanying article below.