Marriage in the US has become an incredibly risky endeavour.
In the vast majority of cases of divorce, men stand to lose their children, their house, and their assets.
That’s even before mentioning crippling alimony and child support. Those can make you a financial slave for dozens of years.
Men’s entire lives have been wiped out by divorce, and considering that over 90 percent of divorces are initiated by women, that leaves us wondering: Why? Why do women divorce men?
Cynics will say Money! – and while that’s true, it’s just one of the many reasons.
With the divorce rate going over 50%, this is a question that quickly needs answering.
Here are some unusual reasons why women divorce men:
You’ve Gained Weight
You don’t see these reasons touted as much in “most common reasons for divorce” posts, but it’s true.
Men are not the only ones who care about looks these days. Guess they should add “as long as you don’t get fat” to “forever after”.
This is at the same time the hardest and the easiest thing to do on this list.
It’s the hardest because let’s face it: Most people gain weight after they get married. Combine slowing metabolism as you get older with laziness which comes from not having to go out and pick up girls and you have a recipe for a steady weight gain.
On the other hand, it’s the easiest because you should be keeping fit not because of your wife, but because of you and your health. Even if your wife leaves you you will have your health – the same is not in reverse.
So watch your diet, go to the gym, and try to get some sleep. You will feel better, look better, and have a better marriage.
You’re Bad in Bed
This is a familiar story.
The relationship starts out with hot, passionate, crazy marathon sex sessions every day of the week.
But, after you get married, you slowly start to drop that to 2-3 times a week. Then once a week. Then once a month.
As if that isn’t bad enough, the quality of your performance also starts to suffer. Soon you go from crazy “Fabio the Stallion” to 2-minute man (if you can even get it up).
The solution is simple. Start consciously to improve your love-making abilities. Learn how to dominate a woman in bed (most of them love it, no matter what they say). Learn how to last longer in bed (naturally).
Sex is just like any other skill – if you work on it you will get better. And if you get better you will improve the chances of saving your marriage.
You go to the same restaurants every time.
You have sex the exact same way every time.
Your day unfolds in the exact same way every time.
Predictability inevitably leads to boredom. If she can guess your every next move, she will become bored and start to look for the excitement outside of your marriage.
Don’t let that happen.
Spice things up. Take her out somewhere you never went before. Try a different (and exotic) sexual position. Take a weekend getaway.
Do something out of the ordinary and keep her on her toes.
You’re Not A Leader
This ties into the previous point.
If you are constantly asking her where to go and what to do, you will quickly turn her off.
Indecisiveness is a very unattractive trait and you need to purge it out of your system.
Don’t ask: “Honey, where do you want to go to dinner?”
Tell her: “Honey, I made reservations at XYZ.”
Women love men who are in control and on top of things.
Of course, you can go overboard with this, which leads me to my next point.
Being a leader is great. Being a control freak is not.
If you have to ask yourself: Is this too controlling? – then it probably is.
This can range from anything like asking for her Facebook password to monitor her to something like not letting her go out with her girlfriends to the club.
This never works. In fact, as a general rule, the more you try to hold onto her and micromanage her life the more she will be repulsed by you and will seek freedom. That freedom usually comes in the form of divorce papers.
You Don’t Spend Enough Time With Her
How do you spend your days?
If you are like most Americans, you get up, go to work, endure traffic, go back home (and again endure traffic) sit your ass in front of a TV, and then go to bed. Add in a couple (or more) meals in between those and you will complete the picture.
Notice what is missing?
Your wife, dummy.
If you don’t spend enough time with your wife, can you really blame her because she wants to leave you? After all, it’s not like she’s losing something valuable.
I can’t give you an exact plan on how to spend more time with your wife – that depends on you and your unique circumstances.
What I’m going to suggest is that quality is always better than quantity – meaning half an hour of talking and laughing together is better than watching TV together for 2 hours in complete silence.
You Talk Too Much
One of the most commonly cited reasons for divorce is the lack of communication. Sometimes that’s true. However, it’s often the opposite.
Let me explain.
Most guys bitch and complain to their wives about everything – their asshole boss, their neighbors, the poor customer service at their car wash, etc.
They unload their negativity onto their wives expecting sympathy – instead, they get served divorce papers.
70 years of feminism hasn’t changed the basic female psychology. She wants you to be the rock, that steady support onto which she can rely on.
Now, if you have a great problem that can affect both of your lives, then sure, share it with her.
But she doesn’t want to hear about your petty little problems.
Sounds harsh? Well, it’s true.
There’s no use to get upset; just learn how to deal with your smaller problems on your own.
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