Finding out that you were cheated on is one of the worst feelings any man can experience. That is, if you even find out about it.
A staggering statistic reveals that every 6th woman cheats and gets away with it, without their partner ever knowing about it. But that doesn’t have to be your case.
Find out the truth about why do women cheat so that you can easily prevent it from happening to you and your relationship.
Here are the top 7 reasons for female infidelity, and what you can do to stop it and never worry about cheating again.
1. She lacks (emotional) attention.
The #1 reason why women cheat is because they feel their boyfriend or husband is not paying attention to them. This can mean a lot of things: everything from not remembering her birthday or your anniversary to not valuing her opinions and desires. Basically, you’re not trying as hard as you did back when you were still trying to get into her pants. Women crave a man’s attention, they need to feel desired and attractive. If you don’t give them this attention, they’ll seek it elsewhere.
This can be a tricky one to solve, but here are some pointers:
Try and set aside time each week to do something with your girlfriend. And by something, I don’t mean order pizza and watch TV. Get creative – go rock climbing, visit an art gallery, go biking – these are just examples, think of something you will both enjoy and do it.
Take an interest in her day. And don’t just ask, “Was your day OK?” Ask her open-ended questions “How was your day?” Don’t zone off, but actively listen and ask sub-questions. You can keep a conversation alive for hours with just this one technique. When you’re together, avoid checking your phone all the time and try to actually listen.
Lack of attention is one of the main reasons why women cheat – and it’s a typical scenario: boy meets girl, they have sex, boy loses interest, starts drinking beer, getting fat, and takes her for granted. The result? She doesn’t feel sexy or wanted, and then she looks for attention elsewhere. The tricky thing is that “too much attention” can also be a problem and push women away, at least too much “undeserved” attention. The secret is to become a “worthy” guy that she views as “the One” so she never has the need to look for other men. One of the easiest ways to be viewed as the guy that’s “worth it” (not cheating), is to provide her with matchless satisfaction in the bedroom.
2. She gets bad or mediocre sex quality.
One of the most common reasons for cheating is the lack of orgasms due to bad sex. While some women can achieve an orgasm in minutes, most women need at least 20 minutes of intercourse to achieve climax, whereas most 80% of men finish after just a few short minutes. Leaving her unsatisfied.
If that is the case, she is not having her needs met, and she will look elsewhere to fulfill them sooner or later. It’s that simple. Women dream about hours of passionate, hot sex that they can BRAG about to their girlfriends or selfishly guard for themselves. They dream about all those hot movie scenes, especially now with 50 Shades of Grey and stuff like that. By orgasming too quickly – as most men do – you are basically destroying her fantasies. She’ll tell you “It’s not a big deal” because she doesn’t want to offend you, but all of this is a sign that you aren’t a “worthy guy” with the strongest genes. And it’s also a sign that you simply don’t care enough or that you are a geek.
Of course, she’ll be turned on by some hunk and she’ll love all those macho movies with ripped guys that make women’s fantasies come true. Seriously, the easiest way to cheat-proof your relationship is to provide her with the kind of sex she craves, and the foundation for doing that is lasting longer. And now any guy can easily last 30 minutes or longer in bed with my step-by-step program. There are other reasons why a guy can fail in the bedroom, all of them are covered in my program that turbo-charges your performance.
3. She has low self-esteem.
If she is insecure and has low self-esteem, there isn’t much you can do to convince her that you love her. She might feel like you’re out of her league, or she might take her lack of self-love and project it on you, convincing herself that you don’t love her.
Because she needs validation, she will cheat on you to get it.
Now, how would you recognize this type of behavior? If she is constantly asking you “Why are you with me?” or “How do I know that you really love me?” then she probably has low self-esteem. Take note of her behavior and be ready to break up if you see that things are not going to improve. If you do believe in your relationship, then it’s crucial that you help build up her self-esteem and confidence. One way is to reassure her of her beauty and give her compliments, and the other way is to always be rock hard in the bedroom. She wants to feel wanted, and giving her sexual attention (as long as it’s mutual) tells her “OK, he really likes me and I’m hot.” This can be tricky, too. You’ll have to constantly be “in the mood” even when you’re not – and to do that, you’ll have to naturally increase your libido and your drive.
4. She feels under-appreciated.
If your girlfriend is constantly cooking dinner for you and dressing up in sexy outfits to fulfill your role play fantasies while you barely seem to acknowledge her, it can lead to her feeling under-appreciated.
What happens when she meets a guy who listens to her and appreciates her for even the smallest things? (Because he wants to get into her pants). Cheating happens. She gets seduced. While she might say that “It just happened” or that “one thing leads to another” it is better to cut the problem at its roots by making her feel appreciated so she doesn’t look for it elsewhere.
Try thanking her when she does the small things, and don’t let her be the only one making sacrifices. The small things you do can have a big impact on your relationship, they may seem trivial to you, but women notice these little things that may seem annoying to us.
This is not to say you should start showering her with compliments left and right – only do that when she deserves it. But if she is doing all these great things for you, then show some gratitude. And give back. The best way to give back and show that you truly care is by trying harder in being “the Man” she can brag about to her jealous girlfriends. Women don’t cheat on “the Man” when they decide that he’s the one, but they’ll cheat on the “good enough” guy (bad sex) with a guy that could be “the Man” or any guy that will provide her the emotional and sexual satisfaction she may lack.
5. She wants revenge.
This one is pretty simple – you already cheated on her, and she is going to make it even. Ever heard of “hell hath no fury like a woman scorned?” Well, it’s true. Anyone is fair game now – your boss, your best friend, even your brother. She will not pull any punches when it comes to hurting you. Childish, but it can happen and she can give herself an “excuse” to do it. I’m not sure if you want to be with a woman like this.
The solution to this problem is pretty simple – if you are in a monogamous relationship, don’t cheat. If you continually make her feel jealous or worry about your “girlfriends” that you chat with or befriend on Facebook, it can all make her feel insecure and unappreciated. When in a relationship, if you’re serious about it – stop using Tinder, Facebook, Instagram, and other stuff that continually makes you see other “perfect” chicks. It’s tempting, and it’s hurting your relationship because you create unrealistic standards and lower your desire for your own wife or girlfriend.
6. She lacks experience.
You might be high-school sweethearts, or she might have had only a few partners before you. Whatever the case might be, she hasn’t had enough partners, and the lack of experience is starting to bother her. She’s wondering if there’s something better out there.
Combine that with unrealistic expectations of the single life set by “Sex and the City” and she will cheat on you just to experience some variety. There’s not much you can do here but to try and recognize if you are dealing with this kind of girl. If this is the case, you’re the surest way to prevent cheating is to provide her with mind-blowing pleasure in the bedroom by lasting longer and knowing what triggers her hot buttons. She’ll compare you from stories she hears from her girlfriends, or her past boyfriends that were all much worse than you (hopefully).
7. She wants to break up and you’re just a spare tyre.
You want to break up with your boyfriend, but don’t want to go through that awful conversation where you go “It’s not you, it’s me?” Why not just cheat on him and let him know? That way he’ll break up with you first – problem solved!
It’s hard to believe, but some women really think like that. Thankfully their numbers are not that great, and the only thing you can do here is to keep your cool and break up with her with no drama. Millions of women are with their boyfriends because they’d rather have anyone than be single. They look at their single girlfriends and they’re afraid of being alone. So they stick to a “good enough” guy until they run into “The Man” – and then they have no problem cheating on you. The only thing you can do here is to become “The Man.”
So there you have it. These are some of the most common reasons why women cheat. And if you want to cheat-proof your relationship, pick your girlfriend carefully, you have to be a good match to begin with… hopefully she’s not the cheating type, but again, why risk it? Make your relationship iron-strong by giving her the emotional attention and sexual satisfaction she craves – that alone should already help you sleep like a baby, and never wonder about her fidelity.
Learning how to last longer won’t just make the quality of your relationship better, but it will also make you BEAM with self-confidence that transfers into every other aspect of your life. In the end, there’s nothing better than being peaceful and secure in your relationship… so simply do the things listed above and you won’t have to worry about her cheating on you behind your back.
