There are a lot of questions about the differences between squirting and cumming, and some people may not even realize these two phenomena are different.
But understanding the subtle nuances between the two can help enhance pleasure and create a more fulfilling sexual experience.
From what they feel like to their physiology, let’s explore the mysteries of squirting and cumming and unravel how they differ.
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Anatomy
Here’s a quick anatomy lesson on the female body, highlighting how squirting and having an orgasm are different.
Squirt comes from a location near the bladder called Skene’s Gland, or so it is believed to originate here. As described below, researching female pleasure is not a top academic priority, so there is still much to be uncovered. You can see the location in the diagram included. It’s also sometimes called “the female prostate,” although that description isn’t entirely correct.
A female orgasm is a little more complicated and doesn’t have to originate from one particular spot on the body. In fact, most women can cum from having multiple spots stimulated. In particular, her erogenous zones, such as the clit, G spot, D spot, A spot, and even cervix, will all play a role in her orgasm.
It’s true that most women orgasm from clitoral stimulation. But did you know many ladies also orgasm from anal sex, anal stimulation, or even breast play – Yes! That means nipple orgasms are real!
What Is Squirting?
Squirting is the expulsion of a thin, clear fluid (female ejaculate) during sexual arousal or orgasm. This fluid usually comes from the walls of the urethra (Skene’s Gland) and is believed to be made up of some combination of different substances.
It’s important to note that not all women have tried squirting or want to squirt; it depends heavily on individual anatomy and feelings.
Squirting is often described as one of the most intense and satisfying experiences a person can have. It’s been compared to an intense, out-of-body sensation that sends tingles all over the body.
The feeling of squirting can be quite different from person to person, but a common description is that it feels like a sudden and powerful gush of clear fluid is rushing down her legs.
Some describe it as an incredibly pleasurable orgasmic experience, while others find it less pleasurable than a regular orgasm. Whatever the case may be, squirting is definitely something worth exploring.
What is Cumming (Female Orgasms)?
The word cumming or cum is typically used to talk about male semen, the creamy white substance that most guys reading this are already familiar with. In some cases, the term cumming is used for women to describe female orgasms.
The female orgasm is an incredibly intense and powerful experience that can send her body into bliss. It usually involves intense contractions of the vaginal wall, clitoris, and other erogenous zones as she releases lubricating fluid from her vagina. It’s been said to be like a mini-explosion of pleasure!
Common Misconceptions
Women make up just about half of this plant, but there are still a lot of misconceptions, both by men and women, regarding the female figure.
In particular, female sexuality and a woman’s orgasm is a topic that is not commonly discussed, even though it should be.
Many men and, more depressingly, women will go their entire lives not understanding the female orgasm, female arousal, or how to pleasure a woman with and without penetration.
Here are a few common misconceptions regarding a female orgasm and squirting.
Cumming and Squirting Are the Same
Cumming and squirting are two very different types of ball games. They might feel similar, but they’re completely different experiences.
Squirting is like someone turning on a firehose, resulting in an explosion of clear liquid. The squirted fluid is typical sweet and does not resemble urine. Cumming is more of a gentle or intense release of pleasure.
However, both tend to take a significant amount of time and action to achieve. Read How to Make a Woman Squirt and How to Give a Woman an Orgasm to learn more about this highly enjoyable process.
Moreover, a G Spot orgasm does not equal squirting either. Yes, women squirt from G Spot stimulation, but she can have a G Spot orgasm without squirting.
Squirting Is Always Intense
Squirting can be an incredibly intense experience, but it is not always the case. Some women may only be able to squirt a few drops of fluid, while others can squirt a lot more than this.
The intensity of the squirting sensation also depends on individual anatomy and arousal levels. Some women may find it pleasurable and even orgasmic, while others may not feel anything at all.
Cumming Is Always Intense
Not all orgasms will be explosive or mind-blowing. Sometimes it’s more gentle and subtle but still enjoyable nonetheless.
A Woman Has to Squirt to Orgasm
A woman does not have to squirt to experience an orgasm. Although physiologically, women can squirt, many will not for numerous reasons.
However, there’s hope for the poor ladies who don’t squirt! They can still enjoy a mind-numbing orgasm from clitoral stimulation, G Spot stimulation, or even nipple or anal play.
Female Ejaculation Is Just Urine
Female ejaculation and urine are often confused, but there’s a distinct difference between the two.
Female ejaculate is usually clear or whitish in color and is believed to come from the Skene glands. The fluid released during female ejaculation isn’t urine, though it can contain some diluted components. On the other hand, peeing is a typically conscious act that requires muscles to expel fluids out of the bladder.
Can You Make a Woman Squirt and Cum at the Same Time?
Yes! Some women can achieve both a squirting orgasm and a regular orgasm simultaneously. This typically happens when manual or toy stimulation is applied to her clitoris and G-spot simultaneously.
Making a woman squirt s hard enough for a lot of guys. Making her squirt and cum simultaneously might be an even bigger challenge, depending on her body and preferences. Do this to increase the likelihood of her reaching orgasm and squirting simultaneously.
Ample Foreplay
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Foreplay is key to getting your partner primed and ready. Don’t jump straight into the nitty gritty stuff with no build-up! Building anticipation and sexual excitement can make all the difference. Rub her shoulders, kiss her neck, and ensure she is relaxed and aroused.
Sex Toys
You need a lot of intense, prolonged stimulation to help her reach climax. The Hitachi Wand is an excellent toy for achieving this intense pleasure, vibrating powerfully and evenly over the entire clit. For internal stimulation, we recommend the G Spot wand. Pair both together, and she’ll be in for one wild ride!
Fingers
Sometimes, you won’t need sex toys to help your woman squirt and cum simultaneously. Fingers used correctly can get the job done too.
First, know what makes your partner cum. Is it a lot of clit play, breast play, and anal? If you don’t know what to get her off, discuss your sexual preferences, fantasies, and desires beforehand. You might learn a thing or two.
Second, get her primed and ready with forepaly. Wait until she’s wet before typing to make her cum and squirt. Ideally, she should be soaking wet before her clothes are even off. Learn how to do that here.
Next, you should begin with soft and gentle strokes, teases, and caresses over her entire vulva without focusing on the clit. Build up the sexual tension so that there’s an explosion of sexual pleasure later on. When she’s ready, show her clit some love.
At the same time, stimulate her G Spot inside the vagina. The G Spot is not deep inside; only a knuckle and a half. Stick your finger or fingers inside, make a come hither motion, and use a bit of pressure. Making a woman squirt can be forceful, as you have to pull hard! Avoid overdoing it by asking for feedback.
When she’s near squirting, she will feel the urge to pee. Encourage her to relax and give in to the sensation – by the way, having her go to the bathroom beforehand will decrease the likelihood of her saying, “I have to pee.” because she really does have to urinate. The pressure in the urethra can feel a lot like the urge to urinate. Unfortunately, if she doesn’t go to the bathroom beforehand, what comes out might be urine or a mixture of squirt and urine.
Oral Sex
Combine oral sex with G Spot stimulation to give your partner an orgasm and help her squirt simultaneously. You will want to use your fingers while you lick and suck her vulva and clit. Don’t get too carried away because you should know the signs she’s nearing orgasm. Try to get her to the point she wants to squirt simultaneously and pull out your fingers to enjoy fluid release.
Other Types of Stimulation
Not everyone enjoys only clit play to orgasm. As mentioned, many ladies love a bit of a finger inside their anus. In this case, finger her G Spot and anus simulating to help get her off.
Another common pleasure point is the breast. The nipples have many nerve endings, making them a great erogenous zone. A little bit of nipple play can help her orgasm. Pair with G Spot stimulate to make her squirt as you play with her breasts.
Better Sex Position
Choosing a better sex position can do the trick. It could be that you’re just not hitting her G Spot correctly during sex, fingering, or using a sex toy.
Putting a pillow under her pelvis or a sex wedge can lift her hips and give you better access to her G Spot. You can also experiment with positions like Doggy style, where her ass is up, or a side-to-side position and see if that does the trick.
Ultimately making your woman squirt and cum simultaneously could be a challenge. Good news! You get to pleasure her and keep trying until you get it right, meaning many more nights of pleasure will come.
Don’t be discouraged if it doesn’t happen. Some women have trouble reaching orgasm, and many more have difficulities squirting. It is not necessarily your fault if she can’t achieve either or both simultaneously. Spend more time getting to know your partner, and having an open dialogue about your sexual experiences can help relieve some of the confusion and disappointment.
Final Notes
Squirting is the expulsion of a diluted fluid from the urethra during sexual arousal or orgasm, while cumming is an intense experience of pleasure. Both are normal experiences and can be achieved through manual stimulation, oral sex, penetrative sex, and other stimulating activities.
