We all love that feeling of getting a great blowjob. It’s such an intimate act, and the feeling of her tongue on the shaft, bobbing up and down, slurping all over it is simply an amazing, erotic feeling, even if she is not that good at it.
We men love it, and many women love it too. But other women are not as enthusiastic about it, and still others are appalled by it. Some feel humiliated by the act, and others feel embarrassed about it because they don’t think that they are very good at it.
The right question to ask isn’t, “How to get more blowjobs from your wife or girlfriend?” but,
“What can we do to make it more enjoyable for them so that they will do it more often?”
The problem is that most guys are clueless as to how to get what they want from their girlfriends or wives. But only when you know how they think and operate, you will know exactly what to do.
Women like to use sex as a tool or a weapon against us for whatever reason. For example, if you were to take a shower and leave your wet towel on the bed all of the time, did you know that she is likely to withhold sex JUST BECAUSE OF THAT? How do I know? Because this is what a lady friend of mine told me… I know many other examples of this kind of thinking from women.
You have to understand the way women think. They know that they’ve got the goods that you want. They know that the only real power that they have over you is sex. She can’t out-muscle you. So she’s going to use other methods in order to get what she wants.
Don’t get me wrong–I love women. They’re great. But you have to know what you’re dealing with here.
What’s the solution?
The solution is to beat them at their own game. There is no other way. In other words, pick up the damn towel! Hang it up, so she won’t have an excuse to not blow you or to withhold sex.
So part of it is being respectful of her wishes and doing those little things that may not seem like it’s a big deal to you at all. The point is that IT IS A BIG DEAL if she wants to make it one.
I don’t mean to sound like a downer on women, but they are downright sneaky and conniving behind the scenes. And, trust me, I’ve known a lot of them to have come to this realization.
So, play her game. Pick up after yourself. Don’t leave the freaking toilet seat up if that bothers her. Take out the trash. Help with the dishes. Don’t be a freaking lazy ass guy. It’s not good for you to be that way anyway, so do your part to be responsible.
Why am I harping on this so much you ask? Here’s why…
You may find that this solves your whole problem!
It’s the little things in life that you think are no big deal that can drive a woman absolutely batty about you. Trust me. I know. I was married, and through a divorce, and when it was all too late, I heard all kinds of shit that I had no clue about that was driving her nuts. I remember thinking, why didn’t she just fucking tell me the truth while we were married?
The truth is that women give us lots of clues when they are mad at us, but will rarely come right out and confront us. Why? Because they typically don’t like confrontations, unless they are from New York…
So if you want more blowjobs from your woman, you’ve got to outsmart her.
Following is a list of 14 things that you can do in order to get more blowjobs from your wife or girlfriend.
14 Guide Tips to Getting Her to Blow You
#1: Don’t cum too fast
If she’s going to give you a blow job, you’ve got to last longer than five seconds, otherwise, she’ll think it’s just a waste of time.
If you can’t last long enough for both of you to enjoy that bj, be sure to learn how to last longer during a blowjob.
When you fix that problem, look at my other articles about how to last longer in bed; in particular, practice edging where you learn to control yourself by almost reaching climax, and then purposely stopping.
For a lot of guys, they are so used to coming every time when they masturbate that they can’t imagine stopping towards the end of it. But the truth is that anyone can do it, and it’s a great way to discipline yourself in order to gain the control that you need to last longer.
#2: Communicate your wants
Women love to communicate. And so, if you approach her and open up the lines of communication, then she’s going to really appreciate that. Why? Because most women know that most guys would rather have their heads put in a vice grip than to talk about things…
Carefully let her know that you’d like to have more blowjobs, and open the door of communication about it. Whatever you do, don’t be accusatory or judgmental about it. See what she says. Maybe she has no problem with doing it more. Or maybe there is a reason why she doesn’t like it.
Be careful because this conversation could make it or break it for you. Be nice about it, and she will respond positively even if there is a reason why she doesn’t like to give you blow jobs. If you normally don’t initiate conversations with her, then she’s really going to appreciate it.
#3: Eat pineapple beforehand
It has been known for a long time that pineapple helps with the taste of cum. If your cum tastes bad, it can be a total turnoff to your girl.
Some people will eat pineapple for three days before sex, but I have experienced a noticeable difference in only 24 hours.
Experiment with it. Eat a lot of pineapple the day before sex and see if she likes it better. It that’s not good enough, then eat pineapple for two days straight and then three, etc..
Other things you can do are to drink plenty of water, eat celery, cinnamon, apples, fresh fruit, and melons.
#4: Have fun
Put some whip cream on your cock and let her go to town. Or, put her favorite flavored ice cream on it and see how much more she enjoys it. Use maple syrup, edible lube, or whatever else you can think of that she would enjoy.
However, make sure that whatever it is that she ingests is not harmful to her. Some edible lube has chemicals in it.
A great thing to do is to mix coconut oil with shea butter. One part coconut oil with two parts shea butter makes an amazing, rich, delicious, edible and healthy lubricant.
It’s very easy to make. Just put both parts in a pot just until it is good and melted, pour it into a plastic container, and then put it in the refrigerator overnight.
In the morning, you’ll have a sex cream that feels better than ANY store bought product you’ve ever tried.
The other thing that you can do is to encourage her to use a vibrator in her pussy while she sucks you off. Make it enjoyable for both of you, and she’ll be much more likely to blow you.
#5: Roleplay
Roleplaying is simply using fantasy while having sex, and it’s usually a total turn on for women. I’d recommend keeping it pretty vanilla at first; nothing too crazy because you may cross some line that she’s sensitive about. So, tread a bit carefully with this one. But here are some ideas.
You could play dentist and patient, and your new inspection tool is your throbbing manhood. Or, if she’s into it, you could be her pimp and she’s just gotten back from one of her johns. Ask her if she blew the guy and then tell her to blow you the same way.
Another idea is that it’s night time, you’re a cop, and you’ve just pulled her over for speeding. But instead of using your flashlight to shine a light, you use your other wand. Give her the choice of either going to jail, or sucking the stiff wand before her…
Like the word implies, roll with it. Get creative, have fun, but don’t go too extreme, especially at first because it could backfire on you.
The good thing is that there are a million things to role play, and it can really add a lot of spice to your sex life. Oh, and she’ll love giving you more blow jobs too.
#6: Give her a hand–literally
Sometimes, it’s best to prime the pump…
If you can get yourself hard before she even starts, it will ease her stress at being successful at it. By getting hard to begin with, she’s then halfway there and won’t have to worry that she won’t be able to get you hard.
Just make sure that you don’t go limp on her while she is sucking you, or you may make her feel like a failure.
If you do start to feel that you are going limp, change things up real quick and either go down on her, start to fuck her, or change it up some other way. Whatever you do, you don’t want her to feel like a failure.
#7: Give her plenty of oral
If she knows that you go down on her all the time, then she’s going to be more willing to go down on you too. It’s only fair.
Do a little research on it if you’re not used to giving her oral. Women are a lot different than us of course, but her clitoris is a lot like our penis.
Start off by licking her labia which are the outer folds of her pussy. Then start to lick the hood of her clit, but be careful with licking her clitoris directly: that thing is usually VERY sensitive.
Then make your mouth into the shape like an O, as if you were mimicking a fish. When she is ready for the main thing, cover her entire clit with your mouth and start to suck.
Look at it this way: what do you like better? Do you like your cock to be licked on the edges the whole time, or do you prefer to have a girl go down on it all the way and suck like a vacuum cleaner? The answer is obvious. There is no difference with a woman. She likes that whole clit sucked on.
#8: Guide her
When your woman gives you head, don’t just sit there and put all of the pressure on her to perform. Guide her by gently moving her head onto your cock, or moving your body to help her out. If she’s doing a great job, then you don’t have to do this. But if she’s not, then help her out a little.
Be careful not to get so consumed with excitement that you literally start to fuck her brains out. After all, a brainless girlfriend isn’t going to do you much good.
Be mindful of what you are doing and you’ll be fine.
The other thing you should do while you are guiding her is to moan and groan when she’s doing it right, and moan less when she’s doing it wrong. This way, she will know what is working and what is not, and if she starts to catch on to it, you won’t have to guide her with anything but your voice.
#9: Shave it, or save it
Some women are disgusted by pubic hair, and if they get any stuck in their teeth, it’s totally gross for them. Other women don’t mind it at all. Find out what your girl likes and then do whatever she wants you to do. You want to get blown, right? Then make it appealing to her.
It doesn’t mean that you have to go totally commando down there. You can use scissors and cut it short; keep it short, neat and clean. I’m willing to bet that she does that already for herself, so, you can do it too.
#10: Make sure it’s clean
I shouldn’t have to tell you this because I’m not your mother, but, then again, that would seem a bit strange if your mom told you this…
Shower before you ask her to blow you and do your best to keep it clean down there. Change your underwear daily and if you know you’re going to have sex at night with her after a long day at work, take a shower and change your underwear again.
It only takes one time of you not being clean and her smelling your stinky member in order for her to be turned off for a long time.
So, keep it clean down there.
#11: Cum in, or out
If she doesn’t want you to cum in her mouth, don’t ever force her too. Be respectful of what she wants. When you feel the orgasm about to happen, make sure to pull out if she doesn’t like it in her mouth.
The other thing that you could do is to shove your cock deep in her throat when you orgasm, and she won’t even taste it then. Why? Because you’ll be squirting way past her taste buds. She won’t taste it at all.
But be careful not to thrust too deep or to hurt her. You wouldn’t want to mess it up for next time.
Of course, it’s totally up to her. Some women love it in their mouths, and all over their face, etc. It just depends upon the woman.
#12: Discuss where to cum
If she doesn’t like it in her face, then discuss alternatives like her ass, her breasts or her stomach. The point is to take away any anxiety she may have if she doesn’t want it in her mouth or on her face, etc.
This conversation is best had beforehand and not in the moment. Ask her in advance and it will more than likely get her excited because she will like the fact that you’re being respectful of her wishes. Added to that, she will not be able to stop fantasizing about it until the next time she blows you.
Heck, she may even blow you right then and there if you bring it up, so be prepared for that to happen too.
#13: Be respectful when you’re getting blown
She may like to be called your dirty little bitch whore, or she may feel completely humiliated by that kind of talk. Know your girl. Does she like dirty talk? If she doesn’t like it, be more respectful and stop making her feel like a slut whore, white trash bitch.
If she likes dirty talk, then maybe you’re not doing enough of it. In that case, you’ve got to step up your game. If you’re a nice guy and/or religious, it could be a bit confusing to talk dirty to her, but, trust me, almost every woman I have ever known likes it.
The bottom line is that you’ve got to be respectful of her no matter what.
#14: Thank her
Sometimes we forget to thank our woman for what it is that she does. This is why a simple thank you can really help her to want to do it again next time.
You don’t want to come off weak about it. In other words, don’t say it from a place of desperation and don’t overdo it. A simple thank you is great.
Just say it after she is done and don’t make a big deal about it. If you put too much emphasis on the thank you, then she may start to think that it’s the most important thing to you in the world and that she can use it against you in the future if she so desires.
It’s true that it is one of the most important things in the world, but don’t let her know that…
It may seem like a small thing, but thanking her for blowing you will do wonders for her willingness to do it more often and over and over. Let her know that you appreciate it…
Final Tips
Women usually know what they’ve got, and, if they don’t, then it’s probably because she’s naive, and/or very young. But trust me, sooner or later, she’s going to realize the sexual power that she has, and she can use it for you, or against you.
So the solution to getting more blow jobs is simple: go along with the program, and do what you’ve got to do in order to make her happy.
I’m not advocating or saying AT ALL that you hand over your balls to her. On the contrary. Be a man. Clean up after yourself. Don’t do things to piss her off on a continual basis.
Seriously, most guys treat their women like their mothers, and expect them to pick up and clean up after them. That may have been fine about 50 years ago, but you’re in a new millennium now, and it’s time to grow up.
I don’t mean to come off harsh, it’s just that I have seen how parents of the new generation have spoiled their kids by giving them everything they want, and allowing them to play video games all day long while the parents go to work, cook every meal, and clean the entire house–including the rooms of their kids.
If you treat your girl like that, of course she’s not going to be as willing to give you a blow job.
That’s my final tip: be a man.
