There is absolutely no problem with being horny. Sexual urge, sexual desire, and sexual tension are a part of what makes the human experience.
From the time puberty rears its ugly acne-filled head, sexual urges slowly increase from practically zero to something that occupies a significant portion of your time on this planet.
Being horny is not a problem. No one should punish themselves for sexual urges because you will probably have them until you’re lying in the casket (yes, that means that grandpa in the nursing home is still getting it on).
However, there is an issue with excessive or uncontrolled horniness. Here’s how to know if you’re excessively horny and what you can do to stop being horny.
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How Do I Know If I'm Too Horny?
Being horny is a part of human nature, and even the holiest nun or monk has, at one point or another, had sexual urges. Don’t punish or blame yourself for feeling like you do.
Being horny is not the problem. But when constant arousal and horniness interfere with other aspects of your life, relationships, health, or conflicts with the law, we cross into problem territory!
If you have any of these issues, then you’re probably too horny and should find healthy or unhealthy (more on that later) ways to reduce your libido to normal or manageable levels.
You’re probably too horny if:
- You cannot concentrate on school or work. Suppose you can't focus on your work because you constantly have the urge to masturbate, have sex, or look at explicit images. In that case, you're probably too horny.
- You cannot have healthy relationships because every interaction must involve sex or sexual activities such as kissing, oral, anal, or extensive touching beyond what the other person is comfortable with.
- You will forsake your responsibilities, friendships, and dates to spend more time at home masturbating.
- Every other tab or search on Google relates to sex, sexually explicit materials, or images of hot men or women.
- You spend more time looking at explicit images of people on social media than pictures of your friends, family, or romantic partner.
- You have an unhealthy amount of paid subscriptions to OnlyFans accounts, porn websites, or pornographic magazines.
- You spend a significant proportion of your monthly budget on sex workers and have difficulties paying bills.
- You think about sex most of your day and turn non-sexual conversations into discussions about sex.
- You cannot control your sexual urges and have (or thought about) touching someone inappropriately without their consent or knowledge, such as when sleeping.
If any of these descriptions sound like you, then you might be excessively horny. Hopefully, you have found this article in time to save your relationships, job, finances, or criminal history report.
How Do I Stop Being Horny?
Whenever you feel horny, try these twenty-five techniques to tame a high libido and prevent unwanted thoughts of sex from crossing your mind.
Everyone’s situation is slightly different, so we’ve thought of plenty of solutions guaranteed to help practically everyone reading this article.
Stay Busy
The first technique to reducing horny thoughts is to stay busy.
If you’re horny because you spend hours alone and on your phone, staying busy could quickly and effectively reduce horniness by putting other things on your mind.
Creating a new exercise routine is an easy way to stay busy without much effort. Dedicate yourself to working out for at least an hour, one to three times daily.
If exercise is not something that interests you, try starting a new art project. Gather your paint, colored pencils, and whatever else you can get your hands on, and create a massive wall art piece to decorate your space.
Another idea is to find a new or part-time job to occupy more of your time. If you’re working but still have idle hands, try getting a part-time job such as mowing lawns, working online, or taking the first steps toward owning your own business.
Lastly, try to stay busy by doing things for others. Volunteer at a local soup kitchen, homeless shelter, or organization that raises money for terminally ill patients or children in need.
Finding an organization is as easy as searching for local charities online in your area, asking your church about outreach programs, or speaking to a university counselor about what your options are. Also, try giving up your time to friends and family, not just strangers. Help a friend finish designing his dream garage, for example.
Finding something that interests you is the key to reducing horniness by keeping busy. Suppose you volunteer for a homeless shelter but don’t care about your city’s homeless problem. In that case, you might find your mind wandering on duty and conjuring images of nude ladies or gentlemen. And suddenly, you’re back to square one.
Find a Hobby
Try finding your passion if you want to avoid mindlessly keeping busy by engaging in one-off projects or tasks for strangers, friends, and family.
We often forget our interests as work and other responsibilities get in the way. Rediscover your passion again by going back to a younger age.
What did you do for fun? If you play football with friends every evening, try asking your coworkers or friends to start an amateur football team with you. Or go to your local park and see if anyone is playing and has a spot on their team.
If you had aspirations for being a computer wizard when you were a teen but went into an unrelated field, enroll in an online coding class.
Get sex off your mind, but fill the space with other passions and goals.
Make Goals for Yourself
Goals are a great way to progress in life. If you found yourself mindlessly searching the Internet for porn and now are addicted to it, reorganizing your life with small goals might be a good idea.
Determine what you want to change about yourself, and outline small steps. The goals should be realistic. For example, if you want a million dollars, it’s best to set your goal of saving $1,000 first and then work up.
When goals are unrealistic or unachievable, we don’t follow through and fall back into negative, old patterns.
Make goals that will move you towards your ideal life, and fully invest your time and energy into it, thus, reducing the amount of time you have to be horny.
Get Off Instagram and Social Media
Many of us fill our social media feeds with endless news cycles that give us this feeling of impending doom. Or, we go entirely in the opposite direction and fill it with endless photos of sexy, bikini-wearing models on beaches far away from wherever we are.
If you are in the latter group, getting away from sexually explicit or sexually suggestive newsfeeds on your Instagram, TikTok, or even Facebook accounts would be a great idea.
If you struggle with being too horny, looking at photos of sexy people won’t help.
Exercise
Physical activity is a great way to improve many aspects of our lives, and it’s a shame it’s so underrated. Exercise can improve mood, health, and self-esteem and reduce depression and anxiety.
If you’re excessively horny, working out takes longer and burns off some energy. So, hopefully, when you get home from the gym, you’ll be too tired or too focused on inspecting your new body to think sexual thoughts.
Change Your Diet
You might be horny because you are unknowingly eating too many aphrodisiac foods. These seven foods have been scientifically backed as increasing sexual desires — something you don’t want if horniness is a problem!
Avoid Maca, Tribulus, ginkgo, red ginseng, fenugreek, pistachio, and saffron. Also, reduce your consumption of these foods that have not been well-studied as aphrodisiac foods but are suggested to increase sexual desire: honey, dark chocolate, oysters, hot chilies, and Epimedium (horny goat weed).
Take a Cold Shower
Your grandfather or father has probably been yelling at you to “Take a cold shower!” for ages.
It could be the dread of stepping into the fidget cold, the energy boost that the chilly water provides, or the preoccupation with the cold. Either way, taking a chilly shower whenever you’re excessively horny should reduce the urge, at least temporarily.
Meditate
Meditation is excellent practice for overall mental clarity and mental health. Medicating can reduce stress and give you the mindfulness needed to conquer problems, make goals, and be more at peace.
If you have never meditated before, start small and work your way up to longer intervals of meditation practices.
Find a safe, relaxing, and comfortable space. Sit with your eyes closed and breathe in and out. Let your mind drift, noting what thoughts come up, and then let them disappear. Practice for five minutes, then ten, then twenty, and maybe an hour (if you’re up for it).
There are also plenty of free online resources, relaxing music, and videos to help you get in the mood and understand more about meditation and its benefits.
Breathe Deeply
Another similar practice to meditation is deep breathing techniques to calm and relax the body. Deep breathing is good for excessive libido, stress, and anything else weighing you down mentally.
Take a moment to relax in a comfortable position and environment, and breathe in deeply. Exhale slowly. Repeat over several minutes. There are numerous breathwork techniques that you can try.
If possible, breathwork classes and retreats are great options for those who want to learn more about the benefits of simply controlling your breathing and what it can do for your everyday life.
Kill the Mood
Make your environment as unsexy as possible. Take down any photos of sexy women hanging on the wall and change your desktop wallpaper to a mundane city photo instead of Ms. Boobalicious jogging down the beach. If your girlfriend comes over frequently, put away any clothes she might have left behind to get the image of her nude body out of your mind.
Kill the mood by removing yourself from situations that cause you to become horny. If it’s the sight of your girlfriend walking around in her bra and panties, go into the other bedroom. Or, if it’s listening to sexually suggestive lyrics and cooking with her that really gets you going, take a break from those activities.
Watch a Horror or Comedy Film
Nothing will take your mind off sex faster than filling it with gruesome, scary, or unsexy images.
It’s hard to get hard when looking at images of people fleeing a mass murderer with a chainsaw or watching a true crime documentary and hearing the gruesome case details.
Not everyone can stomach horror or true crime, so try to take your mind off sex by watching a comedy.
Choose wisely! A sexy comedy like American Pie or Sex Drive doesn’t exactly take sex off your mind, so choose something a little more wholesome and rated PG-13 or below.
Listen to a Sad Story
It’s also difficult to become taken by sexual urges when listening to how someone lost their home in a fire, starving people, or sad stories from a history book.
Drink Alcohol
Alcohol is considered an aphrodisiac because it lowers inhibitions and relaxes you.
However, alcohol in more significant amounts is far from an aphrodisiac food. It has the opposite effect of lowing libido and sex drive. Have you ever heard the term “Whiskey dick” before? Well, there you go!
Be careful with this tip; you don’t want to trade one problem for another. Excessive alcohol consumption and alcohol addiction come with their risks. But overindulging once in and while probably won’t hurt.
Sensual Massage
If you’re excessively horny, giving yourself a sensual massage to release pent-up sexual energy could help. Likewise, getting your partner involved and having her give you a sensual massage without sex could help you to stop being horny.
Obviously, this tip can have the opposite effect of making you think more about sex as your partner slides their hands over your body. Depending on the person, a sensual massage can reduce horniness by giving you the human touch, interaction, and interconnection you might be craving. For some people, it’s not the penetrative part of sex they crave; it’s the bonding aspect.
Getting your fix of human touch through sensual massage could reduce horniness without engaging in sexual activity.
Avoid Sexual Stimulation
Some of these tips might seem contradictory, but that is because there is no one size fits all approach to overcoming excessive horniness. It truly depends on the person and their particular circumstances.
If you are excessively horny because you are constantly being sexually stimulated, then it’s best to avoid any sexual stimulation. That means reducing the number of sensual massages, kissing, caressing, oral sex, anal sex, or vaginal sex for a bit.
Masturbate
Masturbation will 100% get out that built-up sexual energy. The tip might seem obvious. After all, who doesn’t masturbate these days? Why is this tip even on the list?
For some men, it’s not that obvious. Even in this decade, there is a lot of shame, guilt, and reluctance to masturbate for many men living across the globe.
If you grew up in a household where masturbation and sexual exploration were demonized, you might have neglected your sexual needs.
Masturbation is an effortless way to show some self-love and release sexual energy — don’t overdo it.
Men that are horny but don’t frequently masturbate should try this tip and see if there’s any reduction in their overall horniness levels.
Watch Porn
Porn in excess is bad. Porn changing the way that you think about sex and view women could also be a problem.
However, porn by itself or used once in a blue moon to cool down sexual urges when you feel like you will explode will get the job done.
A healthy viewing of porn, like masturbation, can reduce sexual desire by allowing you to release sexual energy and act on your urges.
Don’t become addicted because porn addiction is real; don’t let it make you neglect real-life relationships with people, and you will be fine.
Reduce Porn Consumption
On the opposite end, if you are an avid viewer of porn and believe that you might have an addiction to it, reducing the viewing of pornographic materials will make you less horny over time.
Overcoming a porn addiction is not easy. Firstly, not many men realize they are addicted to it because cultural norms tell them that consuming the material is normal.
Secondly, finding resources to overcome porn addiction is challenging because it’s so normalized. How often have you heard, “I’m addicted to the drug XYZ?” How often have you heard, “I’m addicted to watching porn?” Probably never or very rarely.
Although it’s less commonly spoken about, some resources can help you stop thinking about porn and, thus, become less horny overall.
Get a Blowjob
If you’re horny all the time because you have zero sexual interactions, getting or giving oral sex could do the trick!
Sex and sexual activity are a normal part of life, and when it doesn’t happen, and we don’t do other things (masturbation, self-touching, etc.) to release those sexual urges, they tend to build up over time.
Suddenly, every day, we’re walking around like ticking timebombs, ready to explode out of sexual frustration.
Try getting or giving oral sex to release some sexual energy and return to manageable levels of sexual arousal.
Have Sex
The most obvious way to reduce libido is to enjoy sexual intercourse with someone. If you’re horny because you have not had sex in a long time or do not have regular sex, just getting down to business a bit more frequently can do the trick!
As long as it’s consensual, vaginal or anal sex are both great options to rid yourself of excess sexual desire.
Have a Healthy Sex Life
You might be excessively horny because you have a sexual partner, but your sex life is in total disarray.
You might not be getting your needs met in the bedroom by your partner because you’re not vocal enough about them, they don’t respect your needs, or they aren’t sure how to satisfy you.
Working towards a healthy sex life will, without a doubt, help many people return to an average level of horniness by meeting their sexual and intimacy needs.
Reduce Drug Consumption
Drugs affect the body in many ways, but we aren’t going to tell you what to do with your life.
If you decide to do recreational drugs, it’s your business. However, realize that they might be contributing to your horniness problem.
MDMA will make you want to dance for hours and rip someone’s clothes off, for example. Cocaine might also make you want to do the same.
Check Your Prescriptions
Just like recreational drugs may affect libido and sex drive, so can some prescriptions. We know more about their sex drive-killing effects, but it’s also true that your prescription could make you hornier than usual.
For example, hormonal birth control, in some women, reduces libido. However, for others, it’s the opposite effect!
Therefore, if you’ve recently started a new prescription, research to see if others are experiencing similar changes in sex drive, and speak to your doctor to see if changing to a different prescription is an option.
Check Your Hormone Levels
Testosterone is a vital hormone for men’s health, sexual health, and reproduction. But too much testosterone can cause changes in mood, aggression, and sex drive.
If you’ve noticed any of these symptoms lately, it might be time to check your hormone levels.
- Acne
- Increased sex drive
- Mood swings
- Increased appetite
- High blood pressure
Note that if you’re a female or reading on behalf of a female partner or friend, high testosterone in women tends to affect the body differently.
Acceptance
Lastly, the final tip to being less horny that we can offer you is acceptance.
If you’re excessively horny because you are hiding your sexual urges, refusing to acknowledge that you want or need sex, or refusing to engage in sexual activities. In that case, you might be hornier than usual.
Accept that being horny, thinking about sex, wanting sex, masturbation, and wanting intimate relationships are part of being human. Pretending otherwise is futile and will only lead to trouble as you fight to repress your innate urges.
Conclusion
Being horny, having a sex drive, and craving sex is normal. However, being consumed by these urges, thoughts, and actions are not, and can lead to, poor outcomes in our relationships, work, and mental and physical health.
If you are excessively horny, try these techniques to refocus your life, yourself, and relationships. We can guarantee that consistently practicing and implementing these tips will improve your life.
