Communication is key to hot, sweaty, and amazing sex. Verbal communication can be just as pleasurable as physical stimulation for women. Better yet, you don’t need expensive toys or gadgets to have an exciting and enjoyable time with your partner using your mouth to sweet talk her.
You don’t have to be an expert linguist, great at cunnilingus, or a confident lover to learn how to talk about sex to heat up the bedroom.
Whether you’re just learning the ropes or simply wanting tips on taking things to a new level, the right techniques will add some spark and sizzle into your love life and make your girl wet.
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Start with a Compliment
Everyone loves to be complimented; ensure your words are genuine and heartfelt.
Complimenting your partner is one of the most effective strategies to get her in the mood. It can be a powerful way to show her that you appreciate and admire her, and it can also help to build trust and intimacy between the two of you.
Focus on specific qualities that you love about your partner. Tell her how beautiful she looks, how much you love her body, and how amazing she makes you feel.
Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable, either. Women love men who can be strong and protective but also sensitive enough to understand their own feelings and emotions, as well as hers. Show her that you are open to discussing your feelings and experiences and willing to listen to her thoughts and feelings.
Use Metaphors and Poetic Language
Metaphors, similes, and poems can be a great way to arouse her with words. Talk about how she feels like silk in your hands or her lips taste like honey. Describe how her body feels like a warm summer day or how her eyes sparkle like the stars in the night sky. These types of descriptions can be incredibly powerful and romantic.
Start Light
You might be picturing her clothes on the floor and her beautiful naked body, you on top of her, and her breasts pressed against your chest, but you can’t say all that, at least not at first.
Getting her wet with words is a slow process.
Ask her about her day, what she’s been up to, or what she’s been watching on Netflix. Show genuine interest in her life and tell her you care about her.
This establishes two things. One, you’re interested in hearing what she says, which women enjoy. Women rarely prefer a man who does not care to hear her opinions, thoughts, or concerns. Two, it shows that you have time for her, which also is required to get her wet. A woman will not want to sleep with a man who can’t be bothered to hold a five-minute conversation before going to the bedroom; this includes men who are boyfriends or even husbands.
Wait For the Right Moment
Your partner or lady of interest needs to give the okay that she’s receptive to the discussion. The key to a sexy, sultry conversation and getting a desired response is timing.
She expresses that she’s frustrated with work. Don’t say, “I want to smack your ass.”
She says she wants to have dinner one hour earlier. Don’t say, “Oh, so you can get me inside your mouth one hour sooner?”
Successful guys use common sense. No matter how eager you are to get things rolling, you must wait for her to be receptive to it.
Timing is everything. Knowing when to start a sexy and sultry conversation can be tricky, but some key strategies can help you get the response you’re looking for.
- Consider the time of day. The night is usually the best time if you're trying to get her wet with words. This will give her time to respond when she's relaxed and in the mood.
- Consider her schedule. If you know she's busy at work or has a lot of errands to run, wait until she's completed all or nearly all of them, as it won't interrupt her flow, and she can respond in a desirable way to your advances.
- Consider the context of your conversation. If you've been talking about something sexy or romantic, by all means, continue the momentum and keep things that way.
When the moment is right, it’s time to transition from casual talk to something more R or X-rated. This can be a tricky move. Try using something subtle, like an inside joke that reminds her of your previous or prior sexual encounters. Use innuendos. They’re great for getting her to think about sex without spelling it out.
Once you’ve got her attention, keep the conversation going by asking open-ended questions and making light physical contact while fully clothed still.
Be Descriptive
Describe what you want to do to her, how it will feel, and how amazing it will be. Use vivid language that paints a picture in her mind of the pleasure she can expect from you.
Tell her how beautiful she is, how her eyes sparkle when she smiles, or how her hair looks so soft and silky.
Describe the sensations she will feel when you touch her in certain ways and the pleasure that awaits her.
Tell her how much you want her and how she makes you feel. For instance, say, “I want to kiss you from your lips to your neck.”
Don’t be afraid to be creative, either. The same pick-up lines, compliments, and basic phrases like, “You’re the sexiest woman in the world,” “I want you,” and “You make me so fucking hard” can get old quickly.
She’s heard all of those phrases a million times before. Instead, come up with something new and exciting that will make her sit up and take notice.
Be Playful
Don’t be afraid to have a little fun. Tease her and make jokes that will make her laugh. Women love men who can make them laugh, so use this to your advantage.
Tell her a joke and get her laughing and not thinking too seriously.
Remember that there is a fine line between playful teasing and taking things too far. Teasing can effectively flirt and build sexual tension, but if you take it too far, you risk offending her or making her feel uncomfortable.
The key is to find the right balance between playful and serious. As a general rule, avoid topics such as weight and any particular insecurities she might have.
Be Bold
Women love a man who is confident and bold. Don’t be afraid to take the lead and make the first move. Don’t wait for her to initiate the playful banter, jokes, and sexual innuendos.
Tell her what you want to do to her, how you want to touch her, and how amazing it will feel. Be direct and tell her you’re not afraid to go after what you want. Use playful banter and suggestive comments to show her that you’re interested in more than just conversation.
Describe Your Fantasies
Speaking about your fantasies can be a great way to get her in the mood. Talking about what you’d like to do with her, how you’d like to touch her, and what kind of pleasure you want to give her can be incredibly powerful.
Start by talking about the things that turn you on, and make sure to use rich and striking language. For example, say, “I’d love to pick you up right now, put you on the kitchen counter, and fuck you.”
Add in more details slowly. For example, whisper in her ear what you want her to wear, what she is doing, and anything else that comes to mind.
Ask her questions to create an open dialogue where she can add to your fantasy or express her own.
Use Sensual Language
Women love to be seduced and love it when a man takes his time. Talk about how you want to explore her body and how amazing it will feel.
Describe the sensations she will feel when you touch her in certain ways and the pleasure she will experience.
The more detailed you can be, the better. Talk about how you want to kiss your partner slowly and sensually and how you want to caress your partner’s body. Describe how soft her skin is, how sweet her lips taste, and how incredible it feels when you touch her.
Make her feel like she’s the best woman in the world, and no other woman exists.
Talk About Her Pleasure
Women love to feel desired and appreciated, so telling her how much you love making her feel good and how unbelievable it is to watch her pleasure unfold can turn up the heat.
Start by expressing your admiration for her body and how it responds to your touch. Describe in detail how beautiful she looks when she’s aroused and how much pleasure you get from pleasing her.
Start slow and allow the anticipation and sexual tension to build for the best sex of your life. Let her get excited by all the sexual thoughts in her mind, fantasizing about what’s to come and how you will touch her next.
Whispering naughty words into her ear is a great way to get her wet with words. Start by whispering something like “I want to make you cum” or “I can’t wait to eat your sweet pussy.” This will make her feel desired.
You can also describe what you’d like to do with her. Talk about how you’d caress her body, kiss her neck, and make her feel pleasure like she’s never felt before. Moan and growl how badly you want to touch her while kissing her neck or ear. Make her ready for more.
Talk About Her Specific Turn-Ons
Ask her what turns her on, and then discuss it in detail. Describe how you’d touch her in those areas and how good it would feel. Explain how you’d use your hands, lips, and tongue to make her feel pleasure like she’s never felt before.
Use Her Love Language to Your Advantage
People express love and expect to receive it in several ways. The five are:
- Words of affirmation
- Acts of service
- Receiving gifts
- Quality time
- Physical touch.
If you’re interested in learning more about love languages, add The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman to your reading list.
Find out which one she prefers and use it to your advantage. If she loves words of affirmation, tell her how beautiful she is or how much you appreciate her.
Show her that you care about her through acts of service. Whether it’s a surprise date or a special gift, doing something special for her beforehand can be incredibly powerful. For example, if she loves surprises, plan a romantic evening out and tell her how much you appreciate her and how special she is to you.
If she loves receiving gifts, nothing beats the power of surprise. Whether it’s a ticket and reservation email showing you planned a weekend getaway or something as simple as a box of chocolates, it can be incredibly effective in showing your affection and making her feel appreciated.
But if you really want to take things up a notch and make her feel special, spend time together without any distractions and discuss your hopes and dreams. This will show her that you care about her and are interested in getting to know her on a deeper level.
Finally, physical touch is one of the most powerful ways to arouse her with words. Talk about how much pleasure it gives you to touch her body and how amazing it feels kissing her. Express how you’d caress her body and make her feel pleasure like she’s never felt before.
Use her specific love language and talk about things that relate to it. It’s a powerful tool to get her aroused and in the mood.
Describe What You're Doing
Describing what you’re doing can be incredibly effective. Talk about how you’re touching her, how it feels, and what you’d like to do next. This can create an atmosphere of anticipation and excitement that will leave her wanting more.
Start by talking about your sensations and how good it feels to touch her. Describe how your hands move over her body and how it makes you feel. Talk about how you’d like to explore every inch of her body, give her multiple orgasms, and make her feel pleasure like she’s never felt before.
Share Your Desires
Talking about what you want from her, how you want to please her, and what kind of pleasure you’d like to give her can be incredibly powerful. It shows that you are confident in yourself and your desires and gives her permission to explore her fantasies.
When talking about your desires, make sure to be specific and detailed. Talk about how you’d like to touch, kiss, and make your woman feel pleasure like she has never felt before.
Don't Send Pictures Yet
We live in an online world where half, or if we’re honest, all of our dates, come from Tinder, Bumble, Match or other apps. Today, we do a lot of flirting online and via text messages.
If you’re using these tactics to turn a simple conversation into a hot and sultry one, avoid sending photos she did not request.
Pictures, or specifically dick pics, can be fun. They’re direct and express your interest and desire clearly, but they typically don’t go over well as a starter. It’s too direct, and that’s not how women function.
Save the pictures or nudity for last after sending a few text messages, and focus on getting the most out of your mouth — pun intended.
Conclusion
Talking to your partner in a sultry way can be an incredibly powerful tool to make her wet and enhance your sex life. Talk about your fantasies deep inside your mind, use her love language, describe your actions, share your desires, and avoid sending pictures or revealing too much skin until the end. With these 15 strategies, you’ll surely get her wet with words in no time!
